 impfina
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344 points
19/F/Winter Haven, Florida
Join Date: Mar 2008 |
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so me and my boyfriend just got finished with and argument about keeping things from each other, no worries, we made up.
he'd be so pissed if he knew i was keeping my membership to this site a secret. its a small thing to be mad about. and he'd get over it. but then he'd be here , getting amembership as well, coming on here seeing what im posting, reading what other people post back to me.
im not telling him because i need my privacy! he's my closest friend. u cant necesarilly talk to your closest friend about your boyfriend if they are same person. i need some place to vent about him. this is me VENTING..VENT VENT VENT FRIGGIN VENTACULAR
WHY must ALL the men in my life try to CONTROL me?????  | |
lilbear
Ogler
22541 points | That's really no problem with me anyway, my hubby does have an account on here but Never comes on, well a few times quite a while ago, but he knows I'm on here and it doesn't bother him in the least, he likes that I am getting involved with other's and helping or sometimes irking other's and he knows I post threads on things that are happening in our lives and still he doesn't check at all> HEY hold on there, maybe he just wants me out of his hair>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> I'll be back after I accuse him of not caring JK. Vent away, everyone needs an outlet, what better place than a place where nobody knows you personally and can give you objective suggestions and opinions.  |
jeanettesianrachel
Ogler
28656 points | | this may sound rude but its not ment that way,perhaps sub-consciously your letting them or going for those type of men? |
lilbear
Ogler
22541 points | I overlooked your last sentence, Why do all men want to Control You. Well put very simply no one can control another without you letting them have that control. And maybe you like to be treated with a little firmness, but not control. Either way it is your choice.  |
impfina
General
344 points | ok ok all is fair, maybe i do, but considering this guy is the only one ive really been serious with. and with men i was more talking about my father, brothers, and family friends.
and i said TRY, key word here. sometimes my boyfriend is controling. and i was venting so yea. but im better now, and he is a very sweet person, rather sensitive tho.....
i think im gonna put a pic of him on here. yes i think i will. |
vekta
Mega Über-Meister
3914 points | It'll sound cliche but more than half the time a guy tries to control his girl friend is because he's insecure.
Some of them take it to a much more sinister and darker level than that. At some level he may not ready or not able to trust you. Emotions can get the better of us and bring out the worst in person. Maybe he lacks the ability to deal with that kind of emotion or doesn't know how to express his feelings in regards to intimate relationships. Sounds bad but that's a common theme among males. |
impfina
General
344 points | well i know he is insecure, but he expresses his feelings most of the time. and we always work thru our problems.
my father on the other hand.
he controls my mother like the tv.
he tries to control me too, and he succeeds sometimes.
he could be the reason im impartial to men.
my boyfriend could be the only male that i trust fully. |
mymomsaysimacatch
Meister
1104 points | | Perhaps you should invest in a good girl friend so that you don't have to keep secrets from your bf and you have a good friend to confide in and vent to? |
impfina
General
344 points | | yea. i have girlfriends, but...meh..they dont listen really |
mymomsaysimacatch
Meister
1104 points | Well then they aren't very good friends. I don't know what to tell you but I don't think that having to hide things from your guy is a very healthy way to go out about it. Like you said, he might be mad but he will get over it. I can tell you right now, if he finds out a long time from now that you have been hiding your account from him because you want to come online in secret to vent about him he will be a lot more upset. I understand wanting your privacy and needing to vent, but posting about your relationship on a public site probably is not going to achieve that goal. Maybe if you form a closer bond with the friends you have they will want to listen to what you have to say and even if you aren't that close now if you listen to them act like a good friend you are bound to get the same thing in return. It is always good to have that balance of a good friend to talk to when you are in a relationship. It also help to keep a little independance from the relationship which is really important in my opinion. Good luck though.  |
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