"i'm not lost, just undiscovered"  cole
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14178 points
33/M/Stirling, United Kingdom
Join Date: Apr 2006 |
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Well the time has come, after 6 wonderfully happy years Sarah has decided to walk out my life forever. I feel like s**t, i'm so unhappy at losing her, my heart and mind are all twisted and torn and to top it off she left our son with me. I'm so lost without her, how the hell do people get through this? I have to stay strong for my son but all the while i'm falling apart, he said to me "daddy why are you crying" and that made me cry all the more  He's a smashing lad, i love him so much too. I'm glad she left him cause it gives me a purpose
She is my first real true love, i did fall in love back when i was 18 but hey i was a teenager and it seemed easier to get over back then.
Now i just feel like i will never be whole again, never be able to smile, i don't think i will love again, who would want a 31 year old man with enough baggage to fit in a B52? And two children to two different women, f**k that could get confusing come mothers day!!!!! I never wanted to have my kids to seperate people, i wanted to be a family, i wanted to have more kids to, at least another 1 possibly 2 but now i don't know what the point is anymore. It seems being a proper family just isn't going to happen for me
I know, I know it will heal in time and it will be ok in a bit, but right now it just feels like a big empty hole where my stomach should be, i don't know what to do, do i wait? do i get on with my life? i have no idea!!! I just wanna go to bed and lie there forever.
Why does life have to be so hard??? f**k i feel so pathetic and worthless | |
monkeymadness
Ogler
21041 points |  Dude there is nothing i can say really, just holler if you wanna chat |
christa
Über-Minister
16696 points | awww i am so sorry to here that hang in there!I know its rough right now but it will get better in time like the saying goes time heals all wounds!I am sure there is a women out there for you and when you are ready give me a call lol jk but really i belive there is always someone out there for us.if you ever need to talk to someone just pm me i am not verry good a cheering people up with inspiring words but i can be funny if you need a laugh big huggs take care  |
prettyface
Über-General
551 points | Wow, omg... i feel really bad for you. All ic an say is that you have ot stay strong. Please stay strong.. don't make your son see you in misery becasue then he'll go through it and your household will be nothing but a ddrag. As a teen that went through parent sepeartion.. it does suck.. and even for my parents.. It really sucks. but We go through it everyday.. Life is a bitch .. that's true, but if your not strong..it will get worse.
I hope i tried a little, i mean im olny 16 i don't really know much like you do.. but i have been through divorce of my parents..
Stay strong my Friend ... and if you pray.. (sounds corny but...) keep praying |
jmo
Über-Monkey
55930 points | You sound just like my dad did when my mum left him. I feel for you, becouse i saw how sad he was, how hurt he was by the whole thing. That was a few years ago now, and he's a really happy upbeat guy again.
I havent experianced what your going through, so i think i'll be of little help, but i would say just be strong for your son, you obviously love him alot. He will give you reason to be happy...untill he hits his teenage years when... |
dreamdestined
Debater
6527 points | It will take awhile, but things will get better.
Hang in there. |
kerrigwen
Über Master Debater
8275 points |
Get up every morning for your kids, for your son. It's awful for any child to see their parent down and out. It's okay once in a while, but it should be brief.
Do you know why she left, or where she went? It'd be good to make contact with, just to touch base. Some things just aren't meant to be  - but it's something you can learn from, can come away from the relationship and find something worth holding on to.
I hope you have somewhere to go for comfort.
Hang in there, bud.  |
emeraldeyes
Über-Meister
2991 points | I wish there was something I could say to make it feel better,
It wasn't that long ago I was dumped by a guy who made me believe we had a future, I was crazy about him . and he knew how much I cared. and lead me to believe he did too.
Out of the clear blue sky. he decided That I didn't fit into his world.
You probably know how it hurt. and you know I will always love him
but I finally moved on. and I think it made me a different person. You will get through it.
I am here if you need someone who understands. Boy Do I ever |
sweetrnsugar77
Ogler
26828 points | You will be amazing at how resilient your mind and body will be. Think a little about what went wrong and focus on the fact that she is gone and you cannot change her.
Then look at your son and give him all you have. Its gonna be draining and its gonna be hard. Try to let your son see you smile, that is the only way he will think its gonna be ok.
AND, your life isnt over. Most people dont get married till your age now days and if you do find someone who loves you and your son then life will be even sweeter.
Dont sweat it.....one day at a time. |
wildchild
Perv Magnet
Über-Moderator
93806 points | | Cole there are a million things youi could do right now, go out get drunk, have a grudge f**k, or stay home eat tons of rocky road ice cream and soak in your sadness, or rip up all her pictures , scream yell and kick and tell her how much she's hurt you. but if I were you I'd simply just let all those urges pa** , enjoy your son and realize that this is not the end of your life, it'sjust the end of the life you're familair with. A broken heart can make you sick , I know I've had a few of them, but they all healed. You're from what I can tell a very nice man, with a lot to offer. I know it's hard but just try to take one day at a time right now, or even one minute at a time if you need to you will get through this. Hang in there buddy if you need to talk just give me a holler. |
squirt_aka_casey
Minister
13155 points | | Both of my children are by different dads, and I've realized one thing, you may not be a traditional family, but as long as there is love, you are a proper family. Good luck, I give you all the love that I can muster! |
cole
Minister
14178 points | Thanks Guys, your words mean a lot, i know its gonna be tough, but i also know in my heart it was for the right reasons she is leaving, she wasn't happy here, she still loves me so much but her life just isn't working out the way she wanted and i think she wants the opportunity to go fix that, she's only 25, she feels like she may have settled down too young and now she wants to have a bit of a life. I wanted us to do it together but i think there are some things she just has to get out of her system on her own.
She knows i am here for her no matter what and that i will love her forever, and yeah wildchild for someone who knows me so short a time i do wanna go get drunk  , i'm not a drinker but strangely enough going to get tanked up was my first instinct, but i know the answer doesn't lie at the bottom of a bottle and i ain't going to let the drink making be bitter and twisted. You are wise beyond your years - grudge f**k? well i wish lol just kidding i really couldn't see the beauty in another woman at the moment.......
I think it's going to get a bit worse before it gets better, there is so much to sort out, so many things in joint names, so much invested jointly in the relationship and i think there are a lot more tears before it all gets better, but my son makes me smile and i have been spending time with him making sure he's ok and i have stopped playing the sad songs till he goes to bed at least 
Each and everyone of you have said something that has helped, even the ones who said they wished they could help but didn't know how it felt, it's just a comfort knowing there are people out there that care - you should all be proud of yourself. Even Christa who thinks she isn't smart |
prettyface
Über-General
551 points | cole said: Thanks Guys, your words mean a lot, i know its gonna be tough, but i also know in my heart it was for the right reasons she is leaving, she wasn't happy here, she still loves me so much but her life just isn't working out the way she wanted and i think she wants the opportunity to go fix that, she's only 25, she feels like she may have settled down too young and now she wants to have a bit of a life. I wanted us to do it together but i think there are some things she just has to get out of her system on her own.
She knows i am here for her no matter what and that i will love her forever, and yeah wildchild for someone who knows me so short a time i do wanna go get drunk , i'm not a drinker but strangely enough going to get tanked up was my first instinct, but i know the answer doesn't lie at the bottom of a bottle and i ain't going to let the drink making be bitter and twisted. You are wise beyond your years - grudge f**k? well i wish lol just kidding i really couldn't see the beauty in another woman at the moment.......
I think it's going to get a bit worse before it gets better, there is so much to sort out, so many things in joint names, so much invested jointly in the relationship and i think there are a lot more tears before it all gets better, but my son makes me smile and i have been spending time with him making sure he's ok and i have stopped playing the sad songs till he goes to bed at least
Each and everyone of you have said something that has helped, even the ones who said they wished they could help but didn't know how it felt, it's just a comfort knowing there are people out there that care - you should all be proud of yourself. Even Christa who thinks she isn't smart
aw you see your smilling again.. well at least using smililes.! Liek i said Goodluck! Take care.  |
wildchild
Perv Magnet
Über-Moderator
93806 points | cole said: Thanks Guys, your words mean a lot, i know its gonna be tough, but i also know in my heart it was for the right reasons she is leaving, she wasn't happy here, she still loves me so much but her life just isn't working out the way she wanted and i think she wants the opportunity to go fix that, she's only 25, she feels like she may have settled down too young and now she wants to have a bit of a life. I wanted us to do it together but i think there are some things she just has to get out of her system on her own.
She knows i am here for her no matter what and that i will love her forever, and yeah wildchild for someone who knows me so short a time i do wanna go get drunk , i'm not a drinker but strangely enough going to get tanked up was my first instinct, but i know the answer doesn't lie at the bottom of a bottle and i ain't going to let the drink making be bitter and twisted. You are wise beyond your years - grudge f**k? well i wish lol just kidding i really couldn't see the beauty in another woman at the moment.......
I think it's going to get a bit worse before it gets better, there is so much to sort out, so many things in joint names, so much invested jointly in the relationship and i think there are a lot more tears before it all gets better, but my son makes me smile and i have been spending time with him making sure he's ok and i have stopped playing the sad songs till he goes to bed at least
Each and everyone of you have said something that has helped, even the ones who said they wished they could help but didn't know how it felt, it's just a comfort knowing there are people out there that care - you should all be proud of yourself. Even Christa who thinks she isn't smart
Well when I address a post I try to think how I would feel in that position or I even try to put myself in that situation. Of course I've had my heart broken as I've said many times but as I read over this , I got to thinking about how I'd feel if I lost my husband. I have no idea how I would make it through one day without D. in my life. Even though I've had a broken heart before , nothing could compare to the pain I would feel if I lost D. OMG I can't even imagine . |
prettyface
Über-General
551 points | | same, if i lost Manny.. "yeah im olny 16" but its been 2 yrs, so seeing that iw as 14.. hes like my 1st love.... eh oh well |
monkeymadness
Ogler
21041 points | Glad you back with us 
have a manly hug |
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