I realised this when I was trying to figure out why I don't do things I want to. For example, simply asking a girl out is impossible for me, not because I fear not having the right words, not because I fear rejection... I couldn't figure it out... the only thing I could think of was maybe it is an example of a fear of change... a fear that maybe this isn't the best thing for me, that maybe there's someone better out there, or she's not "the one." Or it could be that my whole lifestyle would probably change with a gf in my life... I don't know. It's kinda confusing.
What I'm trying to get at is... how does one get over a fear? well, by facing it... but what is the first step to facing a fear, specifcally a fear of change? do I just purposefully make minor changes in my life until I get used to it? or... what? What is step 1?