"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us"  calonso
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10250 points
25/F/Orlando, Florida
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| I'm going to Colorado to record some music and I just don't know how to tell my husband whom I know will not approve. This is the situation. I'm a penniless singer/songwriter and haven't had the means to record my art. I have a friend (Ryan) in Colorado that I know very well and he's going to hook me up with free studio time. I just have to go out there for a few days.
Here's where it gets tricky. Me and Ryan have a romantic history (nothing serious we just spent a couple months as lovers) and my silly honest self told my husband about it (lesson learned)
My husband believes that I still have a thing for Ryan and I kinda do as he does me but we are both responsible adults, nothing would happen. Plus, I have a good friend of ours comming with me so nothing could happen anyway.
But I know my husband is sooo not going to approve and can't come with me because he has to work (we couldn't afford it anyway) but this is not up for debate, I'm going, I have to. I was meant to sing, it's my gift, my fruit and I just cannot afford to miss any more opportunities to bear it.
Yes, I admit that I'm really going to be glad to see Ryan again after all these years, but this is strictly business for me, my real business, music. So how do I break it down for my hubby?
Current Music: Jay Z- Lost ones
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raditz8526
Monk
35745 points | calonso said: I'm not trying to "make" anything but the music I was meant for. The world says that my success hinges on fame and fortune but that is not how I see it. God blessed me with this voice, all I've got to do is give you that blessing in the form of an mp3 then God will take care of the rest. But don't worry you'll see, or rather, hear. Thanks any way Rad, and I will be back to rub it in. 
What type of music do you play? |
indystar
Commander
71 points | | You have to go for these opportunities when you can in the music industry, don't allow yourself to be held back. If you have a myspace PM your details and i'll happily take a listen at any stuff you do as i have many contacts in the industry |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | | I'm a lover of all types of music so my music is versatile as is my vocals. However, my preference is Soul music. I grew up on 70's soul (even though I'm an 80's baby) so my favorite style has always been in the soul and chill genre's, they show my personality very well. I do prefer my music to have hip hop influences because that's another one of my favs and Ryan specializes in hip hop so we'll definitely make a good team for this. My very good friend that is accompanying me is a producer and specializes in jazz and R&B so I'm very exited to see what were going to cook up. |
darkshine
Ogler
27171 points | calonso said:
I'm a lover of all types of music so my music is versatile as is my vocals.
However, my preference is Soul music. I grew up on 70's soul (even though I'm an 80's baby)
so my favorite style has always been in the soul and chill genre's, they show my personality
very well. I do prefer my music to have hip hop influences because that's another one of my
favs and Ryan specializes in hip hop so we'll definitely make a good team for this. My very
good friend that is accompanying me is a producer and specializes in jazz and R&B so I'm
very exited to see what were going to cook up.
Ooh I do love Soul |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | darkshine said: Ooh I do love Soul
oh yes |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | When I can't seem to find the words, I write it in the form of poetry, comes out easier and prettier. I wrote this poem for this situation and I think it will help. If only I could just read him the poem and that be it...
Link |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | | Well, it's all over now, I've decided not to go, my friend can't go all of a sudden and that was the only way husband would've somewhat considered it. He just wont allow it, he's says that it's not a wifes place to go off alone and that Ryan wants something else and he can't be trusted and that it would severly compomise our marriage and what have you. I know the situation just seems bad and I just want to do the right thing so I'll continue to try and do my music on my own. I don't have to wonder what could've been, it will come along alot slower but I will get my songs recorded and atleast I'll have the accomplished feeling of having done it myself. |
angel21
Über-Minister
15074 points | I'm sorry to hear that hun  but i would say to your hubby, that maybe he can't be trusted but what about the trust he should have for you. Because in my eyes if he trusts you then there shouldn't be a problem. Your not gonna do anything regardless of what he does. But thats just my opinion.
Best of luck with your music in the future, keep us posted on your progress. |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | | Thanks angel, I will. |
vizzy
Über-Minister
18672 points | | Maybe the friend not being able to go was fate stepping in, keepign you where you need to be. Sometimes God/Fate/Whatever you want to call it, keeps us safe from ourselves. |
calonso
Minister
10250 points | vizzy said:
Maybe the friend not being able to go was fate stepping in, keepign you where you need to be. Sometimes God/Fate/Whatever you want to call it, keeps us safe from ourselves.
I actually considered that, thanks viz, you're probably right. If I just do what is right and wait on the Lord, he'll provide a way. |
jistolme
Meister
1022 points | | My husband of 15 years is a musician. This was his career until about 5 yrs ago when he needed to get a more stable job with steady pay and benefits. I have always supported him and worked very hard to keep our family afloat when things weren't going well in his music. It is a very hard career. I trust my husband but some of the women are ruthless, even if they know your married, it's like a game to them. I have to admit if I were in your husband shoes, knowing the situation, I would have a hard time saying go on hunny, I'll be waiting when you get back. I believe everything is for a reason, maybe a better opportunity is around the corner. I wish you much luck. |
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