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10250 points
25/F/Orlando, Florida
Join Date: Dec 2007 |
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| I'm going to Colorado to record some music and I just don't know how to tell my husband whom I know will not approve. This is the situation. I'm a penniless singer/songwriter and haven't had the means to record my art. I have a friend (Ryan) in Colorado that I know very well and he's going to hook me up with free studio time. I just have to go out there for a few days.
Here's where it gets tricky. Me and Ryan have a romantic history (nothing serious we just spent a couple months as lovers) and my silly honest self told my husband about it (lesson learned)
My husband believes that I still have a thing for Ryan and I kinda do as he does me but we are both responsible adults, nothing would happen. Plus, I have a good friend of ours comming with me so nothing could happen anyway.
But I know my husband is sooo not going to approve and can't come with me because he has to work (we couldn't afford it anyway) but this is not up for debate, I'm going, I have to. I was meant to sing, it's my gift, my fruit and I just cannot afford to miss any more opportunities to bear it.
Yes, I admit that I'm really going to be glad to see Ryan again after all these years, but this is strictly business for me, my real business, music. So how do I break it down for my hubby?
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jonnythan
Twinky
91752 points | angel21 said:
her husband obviously doesn't love or trust her enough to let her go.
You're absolutely bats**t insane.
She's going 1800 miles away to pursue a music career with a man she's had sex with and still has a thing for, no matter what her husband thinks or feels about the situation.
As if her husband is to blame for being jealous. Good god. |
angel21
Über-Minister
15074 points | jonnythan said:
Yeah, pretty much. Unless her husband wants to stay with her despite the fact that he's #2 or #3 in her life and she's probably cheating on him.
What gives you the right to assume she is cheating, just because she wants to follow her dream, jezz ud think it was the crime of the century wanting to become a singer and make something for your life.
At the end of the day if she turns this opportunity down when will she get another, she may even end up resenting her husband for it, as he would be the reason for her not following her dreams. I think if your relationship is that strong and they love each other, then there marriage will survive. |
raditz8526
Monk
35828 points | angel21 said:
What gives you the right to assume she is cheating, just because she wants to follow her dream, jezz ud think it was the crime of the century wanting to become a singer and make something for your life.
At the end of the day if she turns this opportunity down when will she get another, she may even end up resenting her husband for it, as he would be the reason for her not following her dreams. I think if your relationship is that strong and they love each other, then there marriage will survive.
If she's willing to risk her marriage for a possible career of singing at the state fare, more power to her. Chances are she will never be anything more than that. |
angel21
Über-Minister
15074 points | | Yes but she will never know unless she tries, i bet she wouldn't expect her husband to give up his dream |
xxdeceivingeyesxx
Mega Über-Meister
4043 points | | Just lie and say you'renot going with him and it's with someone else. |
raditz8526
Monk
35828 points | angel21 said:
Yes but she will never know unless she tries, i bet she wouldn't expect her husband to give up his dream
I bet her husband wouldn't leave her for two months to live with a girl that he has a thing for to follow this dream. Some people actually consider a marriage a lifelong commitment. |
lilbear
Ogler
22541 points | | Edited due to not enough info. |
demonmaster
General
304 points | Well my turn lol
the question was and is how do i break it down for my hubby!!!
not do i value my marriage!! so plz folks get back on track and answer what the lady asked!!
fact1 she is going!!
fact2 she wants the music career
fact3 her hubby aint gonna be pleased
fact4 she has been nothing but honest with him up till now!
the fact is he doesnt want her to go and she wants to go!! no one has the right in this world to expect anyone to not follow a dream if that is what they want!!
the marriage isnt the question so lets stop harping on about it!!
get back to the facts!! |
angel21
Über-Minister
15074 points | Well said baby oh yeah n u could've said that im not bats**t insane as well.  |
demonmaster
General
304 points | | u know ur not bats**t insane lol |
angel21
Über-Minister
15074 points | | I know im not Aww |
lilbear
Ogler
22541 points | | Edited due to not enough info. |
raditz8526
Monk
35828 points | demonmaster said:
Well my turn lol
the question was and is how do i break it down for my hubby!!!
not do i value my marriage!! so plz folks get back on track and answer what the lady asked!!
fact1 she is going!!
fact2 she wants the music career
fact3 her hubby aint gonna be pleased
fact4 she has been nothing but honest with him up till now!
the fact is he doesnt want her to go and she wants to go!! no one has the right in this world to expect anyone to not follow a dream if that is what they want!!
the marriage isnt the question so lets stop harping on about it!!
get back to the facts!!
Let's get back to the facts.
1. She is going even though her husband doesn't want her to, which to any sane human being would be reasonable.
2. She will be staying with a guy she has had sex with and is still sexually attracted to.
3. She has no concern for the wishes of her husband, or she wouldn't go.
4. This trip will probably end with her having no music career and no marriage.
No one said she shouldn't follow her dream. Just don't be surprised if her dream ends with nothing. |
jonnythan
Twinky
91752 points | | So, angel, you'd be OK with your husband going 1,800 miles away to start a music career with a woman he has a sexual history with and is still interested in, no matter how you feel on the subject? |
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