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28/F/South Australia, Australia
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I can't hold it in anymore I have to write it down or I'm gonna burst from sheer anger!!  I haven't written a journal in so long but I feel the need for some therapeutic blogging.
I am so angry right now and I feel I have every right to be. My ex (father of both children) announced to me about 3 weeks ago that he and his slapper gf are moving back to Brisbane, (interstate and about 2,000kms or 1,240 miles away) because she apparently can't get a job here (her own fault, IMO, there are stacks of jobs here), that way they will have a steady income and he can move his myspace business to the city where most of his business comes from.
Firstly he said it to me in front of the kids (NEVER a smart idea) like is was some big adventure and that they could come visit him every couple weeks (at a couple hundred bucks a fare each time, I DON'T think so).
Then tried to justify it by saying it they will have more money and can send more money for the kids etc. (HA! Yeah like your 21 year old gf is gonna want to support our kids with her hard earned money while he sorts out his fledgling business!) If that wasn't enough he finally got to what I think is the truth of the issue here, and that was that his gf is missing her family and hasn't made many friends in SA... DILLIGAF? Let her go back home to Mummy, HE has an obligation to stop d***ing around and support his kids! Arrrgh! Now they will go from one night a week visits to MAYBE seeing him on the school holidays, if he actually works out how to make some money of his own and get down here to see them (either that or beg his parents to pay for the ticket which of the two options is the most likely).
Thus we come to stage 2 of my UBER RANT. 
Friday morning I got a call from the Child Support Agency. They actually asked me if he had had an accident or - get this - DIED because they hadn't collected from him in months. He has not answered any calls (changed number), doesn't answer any letters they send and also they have no income information from him either. The wanker is doing a runner and leaving our kids standing with nothing. I could just kick him right now. How did I bear such beautiful children from such a life-sucking force of moocherism!? Somebody slap me so I don't EVER do it again!! | |
bellestrange
Über-Minister
18843 points | By the way, the above may make me look like a money grabbing b****, but I assure you I am not. He is legally obliged to ONLY pay $25 per month for BOTH children. Yes that's right, BOTH, not each. And the jerk is trying to get out of it. He will not send me anything, he never did last time he went up there, and that was when we were together. Just wanted to clear that up lol.  |
nothinsnew
Monk
35078 points | What a f***ing loser!!!!! 
The kids are always the ones that get the bad end of the deal after all is said and done. But I'm sure he knows that - he just doesn't care.
f***ing loser.
You know I think there's a law that says that custodial parents aren't allowed to move interstate (don't quote me on that) and away from the other parent. Typical that it doesn't apply to the "occasional" parent huh?
What a f***ing loser! |
bellestrange
Über-Minister
18843 points | twiztidangel said: pfft. what a d***  i hope your kids didnt get their hopes up if you don't think none of that is going to happen. my dad used to do that to me all the time and it really sucks  (saying hes going to spend time (more time) with me etc)
Yeah, my Dad was a bit like it too. Probably why it f*cks me off so much. Luckily my kids are only little so they still listen to me and I told them that Daddy won't be living at the theme parks etc and they they won't see him much at all. It sucks being the one to tell them the s***ty side of it but I prefer to be honest with them from the start, unlike some people.  |
bellestrange
Über-Minister
18843 points | nothinsnew said: What a f***ing loser!!!!!
The kids are always the ones that get the bad end of the deal after all is said and done. But I'm sure he knows that - he just doesn't care.
f***ing loser.
You know I think there's a law that says that custodial parents aren't allowed to move interstate (don't quote me on that) and away from the other parent. Typical that it doesn't apply to the "occasional" parent huh?
What a f***ing loser!
Hi sweets.  Yeah I know about the custodial thing. We don't have an order in place. He is too happy running around like a kid with no responsibilities, he'd be nuts to go for some sort of custodial thing and risk giving up his life as a freelance wanker!
Occasional parent indeed. I could just  him. |
nothinsnew
Monk
35078 points | Freelance wanker!!!  Thats funny.
And the $25 a month is a joke. You might wanna get that re-assessed. A friend of mine was ordered to PAY her ex (who sees the kids like once a month) because they screwed up the calculations. She got it re-assessed and he now has to pay. |
bellestrange
Über-Minister
18843 points | nothinsnew said: Freelance wanker!!! Thats funny.
And the $25 a month is a joke. You might wanna get that re-assessed. A friend of mine was ordered to PAY her ex (who sees the kids like once a month) because they screwed up the calculations. She got it re-assessed and he now has to pay.
To be honest he hasn't paid in months, and not surprisingly I didn't notice. So I'm kind of hoping he at least does his tax the legit way because they'll catch him then! |
nothinsnew
Monk
35078 points | | Hmmmm.... cross ur fingers. |
MonkeyMadness
Lord of your mum
Ogler+
24872 points | Oh dear god.
What a f***ing moron.  |
rider
Über-Minister
17532 points | My ex played up and I was the one to hung out to dry,she took the house half my superanuation and $120 a week for three kids,the only thing she didn't take from me was the skid marks on my undies,and this Bastard pay's,(sorry) should pay $25 for all yours and still can't do that.Good Old Sth Aussie,is this just another of their "So far behind reality Laws???"  |
bellestrange
Über-Minister
18843 points | rider said: My ex played up and I was the one to hung out to dry,she took the house half my superanuation and $120 a week for three kids,the only thing she didn't take from me was the skid marks on my undies,and this Bastard pay's,(sorry) should pay $25 for all yours and still can't do that.Good Old Sth Aussie,is this just another of their "So far behind reality Laws???"
Oh, bugger, sorry you got treated like that. Yeah it seems in trying to make things better for some, they are shafting the rest of us. I would be happy with $20 a week! Let alone $120! Only on a single parent pension and pay almost half of that on my rent, ffs! I'm crossing my fingers they catch him... not because I'm desperate for cash ( I barely noticed he'd missed payments) but because it should be 50/50. NOT Me 98% him 2%. |
rider
Über-Minister
17532 points | I think if you look into it the Divorce laws in this country have changed,I was told the other day it is 50/50 now and there's shared custody of the kids one week about,so you may find you can stop him from leaving the state( but don't quote me on that).
I was absolutely torn apart financially and emotionally,and wouldn't like to go through that again,9 years,3 kids and a mortgage,and found out I had been playing second fiddle for years,that sort of thing does nothing for your self esteem. |
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