rebel heart/trust: i did say to get help then get on with life, sure after trauma such as rape we need counselling, support groups etc etc. So of course the people on your site are in great need of a shoulder to cry on, to get support and help and advice because they are in the stage where they need to connect with others who understand what they have been through.

Surely it is healthier to go through this stage and come out the other end and continue with as normal a life as possible rather than having to need life long support?

Unless of course your therapy is to start a support group.

My point is.. its better to overcome trauma, accept it happened, it wasnt your fault, you cant change it, life is short.. might as well enjoy it. Rather than spend the rest of your life with a thorn in your side. To me talking about the rape is a total waste of time, i dont want sympathy, i had counselling im over it, why let something that happened to me 22 years ago, that i couldnt help or stop, why let it rule/ruin the rest of my life? I wasted enough of my life over it, being the victim.

In short... s**t happens, and that might sound harsh and nasty but its true. Sooner you accept that you cant change it the sooner you can get on with life.


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Im glad you can be that way..and that you have the ability to have that outlook..and feel you have worked through it enough to be able to just move on..i like nothing more than to have survivors join my site that get to that point..thats the main reason i started it to help people to reach that point
but there are some people who can't..there are people who have suffered multiple times..there are people left with effects from the one assault..there are things such as PTSD post traumatic stress disorder..panic attacks depression..DID dissociative identity disorder,ED eating disorders ..OCD's ...addictions ,these are all affects that can last a lifetime..and make it extremely hard fro anyone just to process and move on..i suffer from at least four of the above....there are people that suffer other things too..
like i said im really pleased for you..and love to hear of people who can get on with life and leave it behind like that..but some people are not able too..and i don't want people being made to feel a failure because they cannot necessarily do so..

Molestation is against children, Boys or girls and what is scarry is that it's done by a family member usually which makes the child feel guilty about what happened and never talk about it.
Everyone that didn't get through this painful experience can help by checking the CMRPI Prevention plan.


Theory is good, but it doesn't prevent things from existing.

i would say that there both as bad as each other....

it shouldnt be done at all!

"Molestation is against children,"
No, you can be molested at any age. Workplaces are the most common places for it.

"Boys or girls and what is scarry is that it's done by a family member usually which makes the child feel guilty about what happened and never talk about it."
Correct, which makes me wonder what makes this a gender issue.



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I think the most important thing when molested or raped is to get counseling. It's not something that can be put behind you. It is something that will come up again and again for the rest of your life.
It's important to seek counseling to learn how to deal with it and how to keep living a normal life.


OMG Chicken Little, the sky is so NOT falling!

Yes the most important thing is to get counseling.
As for what some of you are saying in reguards to victom survivor I would like to remind everyone that "survivor" is a term earned by processing what happened. Victom applies to the person who has not worked through it and it effects them advirsly as a result.

rape shaggin sum1 agenst their will molestation touching someone intimatly against their will?

It's sexual assault either way. Trauma may result. I don't think it really matters what it's called.

well i think molestion is....

a priest goes over to you and puts his arms around you, then he starts toucing you, he starts rubbing you, he reaches down your pants and pulles you

and rape is.....

and a dark and shady back street a man pull down your pants and brutaly penatrates you, cumms then runs off