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Nov 04, 2008 @ 11:07:36

hope

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let's say you fell in love with a man who turned out to be married . what would you do in that case?

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Nov 04, 2008 @ 11:15:45

plebian_angel

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Walk away and never look back.

Did he lead you on or did you just fall in love thru circumstances?

Either way, married men are off limits, no exceptions IMO.

On <span style='color:#cc6633;'>56 minutes ago </span>

Nov 04, 2008 @ 11:43:47

iwannano

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Run don't walk as far as you need to ,to get the heck out off that deal. You don't need all the crap a married man can and will bring with him and then theres that wife and you sure don't need her in her life.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 12:01:01

not4sale

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Refer him to a good divorce lawyer.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 12:04:18

treebee

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kill his wife, its dog eat dog in middle age you know.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 12:22:32

trolly_mctroll

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hope said:

let's say you fell in love with a man who turned out to be married . what would you do in that case?

If i fell in love with a man.... HOLD ON! I'D BE GAY!!!

Nov 04, 2008 @ 12:24:47

angelcake

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treebee said:

kill his wife, its dog eat dog in middle age you know.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 12:26:58

hope

Minister
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27/F/haifa, Israel
Join Date: Jun 2006

plebian_angel said:

Walk away and never look back.

Did he lead you on or did you just fall in love thru circumstances?

Either way, married men are off limits, no exceptions IMO.

iwannano said:

Run don't walk as far as you need to ,to get the heck out off that deal. You don't need all the crap a married man can and will bring with him and then theres that wife and you sure don't need her in her life.

we were only friends , but a month later he told me that he can't accept me as a friend only as agirlfriend. since then everything changed he stopped calling me and everytime i called him and started complaining for being a way from me he gives me excuses that he is busy and doesn't have time. once i told him that i wanna end the relation and then he strated yelling and screaming at me , he said that iam making a big thing out of nothing. the funny part is that later on he called me and said that he can't carry on with me and it would be better if we seperate.
i was shocked and mad because i couldn't accept it after being with him for almost a year and a half. he knows that iam madly in love with him and i can't imagine myself without being with him.
after being a way from him for 2 months , we came across each other and then my feeling to him revived , i just couldn't help myself . we retrieved the relation once again although i knew that iam gonna get hurt again.
things didn't work alright with him . we didn't see each other often and evrytime i ask him out , once again he says that he is busy and when he is available he gonne call me back and he never did. he started feeling jealous by accusing me of being with another man despite the fact that this is compeletly wrong. recently we had a big fight even he used bad langage with me and i never called him back.
do you think iam doing the right think ? part of me says that this relation is not healthy and iam gonna get only pain and agony.on the other side i do miss him.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 13:41:50

loveis

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Well since you say "fell in love then come to find out he's married...sort of says it all really..

If he was hiding it from you all along, he wasn't being honest with you..
Therefore, 'you' are the one to most likely get hurt in the end.

I'd walk away from it, and take it as a lesson learned.

Nov 04, 2008 @ 14:08:57

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hope

Minister
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27/F/haifa, Israel
Join Date: Jun 2006

loveis said:

Well since you say "fell in love then come to find out he's married...sort of says it all really..

If he was hiding it from you all along, he wasn't being honest with you..
Therefore, 'you' are the one to most likely get hurt in the end.

I'd walk away from it, and take it as a lesson learned. [/QUOTEiam

yeah you right .i never blamed him, you know i blam myself because i should have stopped it from the beginning. but iam just upset or maybe annoyed because i feel like stupid . i never ask myself " what end of this relation"?

Nov 04, 2008 @ 16:44:31

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iwannano

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hope said:

we were only friends , but a month later he told me that he can't accept me as a friend only as agirlfriend. since then everything changed he stopped calling me and everytime i called him and started complaining for being a way from me he gives me excuses that he is busy and doesn't have time. once i told him that i wanna end the relation and then he strated yelling and screaming at me , he said that iam making a big thing out of nothing. the funny part is that later on he called me and said that he can't carry on with me and it would be better if we seperate.
i was shocked and mad because i couldn't accept it after being with him for almost a year and a half. he knows that iam madly in love with him and i can't imagine myself without being with him.
after being a way from him for 2 months , we came across each other and then my feeling to him revived , i just couldn't help myself . we retrieved the relation once again although i knew that iam gonna get hurt again.
things didn't work alright with him . we didn't see each other often and evrytime i ask him out , once again he says that he is busy and when he is available he gonne call me back and he never did. he started feeling jealous by accusing me of being with another man despite the fact that this is compeletly wrong. recently we had a big fight even he used bad langage with me and i never called him back.
do you think iam doing the right think ? part of me says that this relation is not healthy and iam gonna get only pain and agony.on the other side i do miss him.

read though your own post here. you answer all your own questions yourself. You know what you need to do to get over and get on with a healthy life and you know what to do to cut all ties with this guy, it is all right here in your own words and explaination. Now all you need to do is see the truth of the 'realationship' for what it is and stop lying to yourself about what the past is and the future will be because of your feelings for this guy. You have all the tools already to build that bridge and get over this .

Nov 05, 2008 @ 22:54:22

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jr_sanford

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Well Hope, you can't help the way you feel. If you change the way you think (about him) then maybe your feelings will change.

Take care.

Nov 05, 2008 @ 22:55:45

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momof2

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hope said:

let's say you fell in love with a man who turned out to be married . what would you do in that case?

walk away as if i never knew him

Nov 05, 2008 @ 22:56:25

#14

trillian

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38/F/derbyshire, United Kingdom
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you have to think how you would feel if it were your bloke and the tables were turned

Nov 06, 2008 @ 03:53:58

#15

ReadsALOT

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If you fell and then found out he was married, that's deceit. Situations are different for everybody. Without going into too much, I was unhappily married when someone fell in love with me. He was respectful and made no advances towards me other than friendship. We talked so much things just grew; he didn't try to get in the way of my marriage. We built a strong friendship, and the relationship is still growing. From day one there was never any deceit on either side; not even with my ex. This is the best relationshp that I've ever had and it started as an honest friendship. It doesn't sound like that's your situation, so be careful.

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