Would you allow your child to live transgender?

(I'm not sure if I'm using transgender right or if it sh ould be transgendered, I apologize)

If your child came to you and told you they didn't feel like being themself anymore, they wanted to be the opposite sex.
Would you let that happen?
Would you talk to them more about it and try to see if it's just a phase before you allow the transition? Especially if they're a younger child?
Or would you disallow it completely and try to change their mind?

Personally, I'd be fine with it, although I'd have them talk to a counselor and try to figure out if this is truly what they feel or just a phase. I know they'd face a lot of scorn in society, so I would be afraid that they would start the transition and then change their minds. This would be the case if they were say, 7, and came to me. If they were a pre-teen/teen, I'd probably be less worried.
Either way, I'd never forbid it. If you really feel you were born in the wrong body, than that's perfectly acceptable.

No doubt, for any parent it would be a hard transition. It can't be easy just letting your child change identities.

If they're older (like teenage) then I'd say it's not up to you to try and change their mind, but to just be as supportive as possible. If they're younger then asking them how they feel and talking about gender, maybe taking them to see a professional might help. I do think that nothing drastic should be done until they're older though.

I don't think it's an easy situation for parents to face but I imagine you'll get better results with honey than with vinegar in such a delicate issue.

If any of my kids came to me and let me know that were 'trapped in the wrong body', I would fully support them.

I'd make sure they got the appropriate professional help to work with them psychologically and medically.

I would want them to wait until they were older(teens) before they were to start with meds and such to aid in their change. Since I couldn't see it being healthy, development wise, to start any of that when they were little. Changing their hair and clothing to the styles of the opposite gender would be fine. I would be all for that to help them feel better about themselves.

I won't deny it, it would be a shock at first to hear your child say they thought they might be transgender(not a word a young child would use, but however they would be able to vocalise what they felt). I would be there for them in any way I could.

After they reach legal age they can decide rather or not they think they know better than the God who made them, if they were my kids.

All any parent can do when the topic of sex and sexual related issues come up with their children is teach them obsitance is best until they are older and can better deal with all the life changing issues that being sexually active causes. But if that didn't take . Stress how very important being responsible and practicing SAFE sex is. And don't leave out the fact that sex with someone you love is 100 times healthier , more enjoyable then sex with just any one the wind blows your way can ever be.

Being transgender isn't about sex. It's about wanting to have the identity of the opposite gender.

Oh okay, I see.
I am jumping ahead to the fact that the kid will most likely become sexually active long before any permanat changes will be taking place. my bad.

^^ This. Every word.

I agree that it would be fine with me, and also that they should see a psychologist to help them find out exactly what is bothering them.

There is a difference between really being another gender and just thinking you want to be. Compare my friend's dad, who had the successful gender changing procedure. To the serial killer from "Silence of the Lambs".

I come from a very small town, counting all the outlaying ranches and farms the population has been holding steady at about 2200 for a couple of decades now.

A woman who was a few grades ahead of me though out school had a son who was really a woman trapped in a mans gender.
Well , as soon as he could he left town and moved to the big city 70 miles away. He started saving and was finally able to get the operations and make life what it should have been the 32 years he had been trapped.
It goes without saying he was sexually active long before he was able to afford the surgery . He died on the table from complications due to aids.
His poor mother . Her family are all catholics and so her son was not allowed to be buried in the church cemetery that generations of the family has been laid to rest in, the entire family and catholic community disregarded her grief telling her she should be relived , but how sad it was that he would for ever burn ,,, blah , blah blah,,,
It got so bad for her that she just had leave town and never look back leaving her paid in full 4 bedroom home and her other children who are married and raising families .


So, my earlier pot about parents teaching their children obstinatence is best , the importance of safe sex etc... is totally on topic for real life answers to the OP's question.

This might sound contradicting or ignorant and I apologize ahead of time. To answer the questions I think I would highly disagree with the idea. Even though we all have different beliefs I grew up to learn you are who you are. God didn't make any mistakes and you were born the sex that you are now. Sadly, I would be more comfortable if my child came and informed me that they decided to be gay or lesbian.

At the end of it all, I know that sometimes if your child is a teenager you can try to convince them otherwise and if they are an adult, you can't stop or change their final decision. It will be difficult to accept it if they go through with it, but I know I will love my child until the end of time.

Once again, I apologize if I sounded ignorant or contradicting in anyway.

i would do my best to support my child in how they feel ...but i would also want them to take up some kind of counselling to deal with any changes they are making as the world is a bad place for people choosing different lifestyles and id hope to at least have them prepared for this...my friend has lived as a woman since leaving school and has never felt right in there own body since i have known them so i know this is something that just does not happen over night and is with these people most of there lives and not an overnight fad x

People who want to have gender reassignment surgery here in the states must first go through a minimum of one year of psychotherapy beforehand.. They are encouraged to go through at least 6 months of therapy before beginning hormone treatments.

So, therapy is not really something that would need to be pushed.

Hm. You learn something new everyday.

Sometimes people are born into the wrong bodies. If my child told me they didn't fell right being a female and relate more to being a male, I'd suggest that they just live the way they feel comfortable with. I would not suggest therapy or counseling, because none of those will change how someone feels. I will be perfectly fine with it, not sure my husband would though.