@DorkySupergirl Said 
She is actually a friend of mine, she is in no way struggling for money or in a position not to be able to afford a sitter. As I mentioned in other posts, she hires a sitter whenever she goes out to movies etc with her friends. She even said she would not have taken his money for the sitter but he should have offered.
As mentioned, she is old fashioned and thinks men ought to be paying for dates and she was brought up this way. Times have changed but was out of dating world and did not see it.
The only reason it has been awhile since she dated is because the divorce was hard on her and her children.
Puts a different slant on things, then.
Divorce isn't easy on anybody..... I know divorced women and the thing that has always struck me is how the vast majority of them (not all, but most) want to rebuild their lives in a dignified way.... they tend towards the view that "If I'm going to be an independent, single woman and mother, then I'll do it with dignity"..... and that should surely include paying their way when they go on a date.
The days when it was the social norm to "expect" the male to pay everything on a date are over. She may hold to what she perceives to be old fashioned virtues, but in these modern days, such values can easily be interpreted as cynical.
It says in another post that she seems unsure that she's ready to start dating again yet, and may have done this to deliberately sabotage the relationship before it got off the ground. Well, I've heard of women doing stranger things.
I wish her luck and hope she finds a smoother path for herself in the future. Hopefully, she'll quickly put the bad experience and memory of her traumatic divorce behind her. I'm sure she'll work out what she wants in her personal relationships in the end and regain her confidence.
I wish her luck.
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Mar 23, 2011 @ 00:34:39
