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Forum Index > News & Politics > Abortion | >> My Daughter is aborting my Grandchild | | |
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jeanettesianrachel
Ogler
29570 points
43/F/Medway, United Kingdom
Join Date: Dec 2006 | blackgoblin said:
i know i had to contradict myself in order to be nice for a change is that bad or should i be mean to her?
no not totally a bad thing but you should stick by what you think,what ever any body thinks or tries to be nice it isnt the grandparents choice its the mothers and she alone has to make that choice,i have taken someone to an abortion clinic and back when i did it,it was a while back they were scanned,then layed on a bed and it was virtually like a conveyar belt,she would have had to go through getting two drs approval,councilling and seeing the child on a scan,so its not a walk in the park shes contenplating,she has her reasons and for her must be very valid to go throw all that to get a date,and it doesnt matter whether people approve or not its the daughters choice.of cource it will be sad for the grandparents knowing they could have had another grand child but life isnt always a bowl of cherries,
A great man once told me,
I was beutiful,
SO I MARRIED HIM.
Now he tells me every day. |  | |
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blackgoblin
Meister
1284 points
108/NA/Earth, United States (general)
Join Date: Mar 2006 | jeanettesianrachel said:
no not totally a bad thing but you should stick by what you think,what ever any body thinks or tries to be nice it isnt the grandparents choice its the mothers and she alone has to make that choice,i have taken someone to an abortion clinic and back when i did it,it was a while back they were scanned,then layed on a bed and it was virtually like a conveyar belt,she would have had to go through getting two drs approval,councilling and seeing the child on a scan,so its not a walk in the park shes contenplating,she has her reasons and for her must be very valid to go throw all that to get a date,and it doesnt matter whether people approve or not its the daughters choice.of cource it will be sad for the grandparents knowing they could have had another grand child but life isnt always a bowl of cherries,
I never change my views only make it seem that way to help others
which i do rarely enough and now that i do someone says something
and that is why i never do help others.
There is no Past and there is no Future there is only now... | | | |
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peanut
Ogler
20066 points
31/F/,
Join Date: Oct 2005 | appylover said:
Thank you both for your replies. My daughter said it was a mistake (if you call forgetting to use contraception) a mistake. She is more than old enough to know that if you don't protect yourself when having sex you may get pregnant. I have tried to tell her my feelings about aborting my Grandchild and I have listened to her, even though she does not tell me anything except "She doesn't want It". We are willing to take full responsibility for our Grandchild. She does not have to do anything for this child and that includes feeding, clothing, raising, or providing a home for our Grandchild. She or He would be ours only, and not my Daughters responsibility any longer after she gives birth. So to me if she has this option why would she need to get an abortion. Why not let us have this baby? She doesn't want "it" anyway... I know it's her choice and will support my Daughter any way I can even if I dont agree or like the choice she has made.
Maybe it wasn't her choice to "forget" to use protection. You can't just tell your daughter you will take it and raise it as your own. You need to talk to people that have given their children up for adoption or to family member. It's hard. Yes. Abortion is hard as well. She has her reasons. maybe the one she gave you was just to get you off her back. Either way, don't push her or you will lose them both. | | | |
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donna_j
Mega Über-Meister
4558 points
25/F/Adelaide, Australia
Join Date: Sep 2007 | blackgoblin said:
as i said...
step 1: talk to her in a nice sweet tone
Step 2: make sure she thinks you are helping her situation
Step 3: Make it sound 100% wrong and like murder
Step 4: say it in a sweet tone but in a cold manner
Step 5: Finish the day with a nice sweet hug and hope all goes well.
I don't think this is a good idea! It sounds like this nice lady's daughter has made up her mind. I think if she called her daughter a murderer and spoke to her in a cold manner she may be risking her relationship with her daughter - and therefore her existing grandchildren.
Be supportive of your daughter. Of course, no one would like to see a foetus aborted, but I think she has made up her mind - it may be time to accept it and be a shoulder for your daughter to cry on. | | | |
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