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sister_of_mercy
Ray of Sunshine..
Monk+
35680 points
17/F/Bristol, United Kingdom
Join Date: Aug 2006 | Tell her you love her all the same and try to let her be as independent as she wants to be so she doesn't feel embarrassed about being in a wheelchair. Don't treat her that much differently to how you usually would either. |  | |
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blackdahliaxxx
Mega Über-Meister
4264 points
Banned
46/M/birmingham Uk, United Kingdom
Join Date: Oct 2009 | deeFXCKINGjay said:
Re-assure her that you won't view her any differently, then carry on as normal.
Easily said but it's a lot harder to do.
She's always been independent now she has to rely on me and my brother and sisters. Old age is hard to cope with. |  | |
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blackdahliaxxx
Mega Über-Meister
4264 points
Banned
46/M/birmingham Uk, United Kingdom
Join Date: Oct 2009 | deeFXCKINGjay said:
Re-assure her that you won't view her any differently, then carry on as normal.
I do sort of tell her by doing things for her but find saying I love you is hard for me. | | | |
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TrOoPs
Minister+
13392 points
39/F/, United Kingdom
Join Date: May 2009 | blackdahliaxxx said:
How do you cope with that ?
She is embarrassed by it and I dont like seeing her like that.
How do you deal with something like that ?
gok wan said to this woman to dress up and accessorise her wheelchair  hope she come to accept soon  | | | |
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blackdahliaxxx
Mega Über-Meister
4264 points
Banned
46/M/birmingham Uk, United Kingdom
Join Date: Oct 2009 | Wingsy said:
How old is your mom?
I know quite a few people who are in wheel chairs and are still reasonably independent. Sure, they have a hard time with some things, but a lot of wheel chair bound folks I know still do pretty well on their own.
Maybe you could see if there's anybody in the area who is in a wheel chair and can help your mom with the adjustment.
She is 82, wasting away, I hate seeing her like that.
The thing is she has always looked after people like that and now she is in that situation herself.
Lifes a b**** ! | | | |
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jeanettesianrachel
TFS Monkey+
41145 points
44/F/Medway, United Kingdom
Join Date: Dec 2006 | blackdahliaxxx said:
She is 82, wasting away, I hate seeing her like that.
The thing is she has always looked after people like that and now she is in that situation herself.
Lifes a b**** !
i worked with people with learning and physical disabilities for just over 20 yrs,that's part of the reason why i am like i am,if you find it hard to say i love you,your mum will know anyway,by the thing's that you do,us mum's are good at knowing no matter what age we are,the only thing you can do is ask for a occupational therapist to see your mum,and you be there too,and go through the thing's your mum find's it hard to cope with,they will get special equipment for her (they did me)and you and your brother just watch her to see what she has difficulty doing,and offer your help in those area's,that way you are giving her the independence that she can handle,as she becomes more accustomed to her wheelchair,she will adapt the way she does thing's on her own,it's hard to watch her do,but it's one of those thing's you have to do,just be there to help when needed,you'll see she will adapt brilliantly,adapting is a human traite we have x | | | |
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blackdahliaxxx
Mega Über-Meister
4264 points
Banned
46/M/birmingham Uk, United Kingdom
Join Date: Oct 2009 | jeanettesianrachel said:
i worked with people with learning and physical disabilities for just over 20 yrs,that's part of the reason why i am like i am,if you find it hard to say i love you,your mum will know anyway,by the thing's that you do,us mum's are good at knowing no matter what age we are,the only thing you can do is ask for a occupational therapist to see your mum,and you be there too,and go through the thing's your mum find's it hard to cope with,they will get special equipment for her (they did me)and you and your brother just watch her to see what she has difficulty doing,and offer your help in those area's,that way you are giving her the independence that she can handle,as she becomes more accustomed to her wheelchair,she will adapt the way she does thing's on her own,it's hard to watch her do,but it's one of those thing's you have to do,just be there to help when needed,you'll see she will adapt brilliantly,adapting is a human traite we have x
The health service is brilliant, she has been given a kettle holder thing that really is clever. I cant knock them at all. | | | |
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curiouskat
Minister+
12696 points
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31/F/Adelaide, Australia
Join Date: May 2009 | blackdahliaxxx said:
She is 82, wasting away, I hate seeing her like that.
The thing is she has always looked after people like that and now she is in that situation herself.
Lifes a b**** !
Maybe you should remind her of this..
If she was always the giving one who would lend a hand when it was needed, then why shouldn't she feel ok about accepting help herself now that she needs it..
Noone is infaliable, and 82 is a fine age to get to as an independant, able bodied person, she deserves to feel proud of that achievement and take her share of compassion now.
Besides, as someone else said, once she grows accustomed to her new situation she will realise the wheel chair will actually be a new sense of independance and not something that impedes her..
Hugs for you and your siblings blackdahlia, its lovely that you are there for your mum, she is lucky to have you. So many older folk are left to fend for themselves at that age today.
She raised you well xoxo | | | |
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blackdahliaxxx
Mega Über-Meister
4264 points
Banned
46/M/birmingham Uk, United Kingdom
Join Date: Oct 2009 | curiouskat said:
Maybe you should remind her of this..
If she was always the giving one who would lend a hand when it was needed, then why shouldn't she feel ok about accepting help herself now that she needs it..
Noone is infaliable, and 82 is a fine age to get to as an independant, able bodied person, she deserves to feel proud of that achievement and take her share of compassion now.
Besides, as someone else said, once she grows accustomed to her new situation she will realise the wheel chair will actually be a new sense of independance and not something that impedes her..
Hugs for you and your siblings blackdahlia, its lovely that you are there for your mum, she is lucky to have you. So many older folk are left to fend for themselves at that age today.
She raised you well xoxo
You didn't need to say that babe, your nice yourself or you wouldn't have said that | | | |
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