@Jennifer1984 Said
Awww hunny, come here: (((Hugs))).
I'm not sure how anybody can really give you any advice. The only thing anyone could say is how their own experiences worked out and that would be no good to you. You need to find your own way.
I've only dated two girls in my life. The first I loved deeply but we both moved on (long story). The second, I'm married to now and wouldn't change her for the world. I guess I just got lucky.
You say you don't want to meet any more "nutters".... and by that I'm figuring (from what I have heard about it recently) that the Edinburgh scene is a bit of a minefield and things might have gone a bit pear shaped for you on that front.
Wife and I were in Edinburgh for the "War on Poverty" demonstration in 2005... we were part of the "human chain" that formed around the city centre.... we had only just graduated from uni and gotten engaged at the time. Ahhh... those were the days..!!
It was amazing to be there and we thought Edinburgh was a great place until we went out on the scene in the evening. To say it was not what we expected was an understatement.
That's my only experience of Edinburgh and it's LGBT scene so it's not much to go on, but if you're trying to find something more than casual relationships it may be a little tough.
There's an old saying that before you meet your Prince Charming you have to kiss a lot of frogs and I guess there's something in that. Nobody can tell you how to meet Mr / Ms Right. It just, kinda, happens. Sometimes in the most unlikeliest of places (outside Lecture Theatre Number 2 at Portsmouth University on a drizzly, miserable Wednesday afternoon for me..!!).
So don't give up. Just be yourself and let fate roll the dice as it will. You come across to me as a really sweet person and sooner or later (hopefully sooner), your drizzly Wednesday afternoon will happen. I hope so.
Love is wonderful and for all its trials and tribulations, it is worth waiting for. I'm sorry I can't offer you more than that, but for what it's worth, it's all I have.
Good luck, take care and stay strong.
Thanks that was really nice! So cool how you met...
I'm not always 'dressed' I must confess to you. I enjoy being a TGIRL but I also enjoy being a 'typical guy'...So if I was looking for love I'd take on the guy role and hide (or destroy completely) my alter ego (if it was necessary). I've never been on the scene - I don't have anything to do with it because I don't fit in there. When I go out as a TGIRL I go to regular places and wouldn't expect to find ANYONE interested in me in my TGIRL guise...Not for love anyway...Meet enough horny guys though it's actually crazy... Dressing up has certainly taught me many things I wouldn't have otherwise learned. People don't understand though...They see someone dressed in 'unconventional' clothes and think they're either insane, sick or perverted. In some cases it's very true, but not in mine. I just enjoy wearing what I wear and see no 'gender' in clothes or colours or makeup or wild-camping or flowers or boxing or dolls or whatever...They're just 'things' to me. I think people expect a specific gender to adhere to too many impossible rules and I got tired of trying to live up to someone elses expectations of what a man should be.