I know all to well what its like..i was on the recieving end of an abusive man in my marriage for over 8 years..and i have just recently got me and my children away from it..the best decision i ever made..the hardest and scariest but the best..
all i say is if there is anyone out there in the situation you CAN get out and make it through..if i did anyone can..
now me and my boys are safe..as anyone should be..

Well it REALLY ticks me off to see a guy hit a woman, that JUST ISN'T RIGHT! NOW, if woman doubles her fist up and hits a guy, well sorry to say; the woman deserves the same but nothing more.

I think that in a relationship nobody should cause physical harm to either parties. Nobody deserves special treatment just because of private parts they have >_<

However, yes, I was in an abusive relationship as well as a couple of other women that have posted here in this thread (I'm even sure there are some who have been and aren't saying so) and I do agree with this person who made this thread that it is indeed wrong. A lot of people say things to these women like: "You're stupid for staying in the relationship, it's your own problem."

What people don't get is that the person they are with who is abusing them doesn't only have physical control over them, but also mental control too. How they do it is they entrance you emotionally first, screw with your self-esteem, then they use you as a f**king punching and kicking toy because they're at that point where they know they can get away with it. The reason people become abusive in relationships is because it seems to be easiest thing they can control in their lives when all else is hard to maintain, and plus they always have psychological problems as well. An abusive ex of mine still stalks me, but he can't gain power over me any more because I found strength to end that with him, and hopefully anyone else in that predicament will too.


(By the way, is S&M considered abuse? Even if it's consensual?)



~Deceiving Eyes

i agree, as u no if a man hits a women it would be obvouis that the man would do more damage than the other way round (the woman hitting the man), however my argument is that if u woman hit a man is that not just as bad, because becasue if a woman hits a man its doing the same thing (hitting some one) i dnt agree for any 1 to hit any 1 so i fink a woman hittin a man is just as bad, becasue the intent to hurt some 1 is stil lthere it just the action is different (damage).

e.g. i have seen man hit woman in the street, wat happened to the guy.. he got beaten up and arrested for hittin the woman, however in a different situation i have seen woman hit men n nuffin has happen to the woman no one really cared they just though it was funny . is that not sexiest?

Well he needs help I lived in a abusive relationship for years .People like him and my ex are a real low life .I had men or women that abuse each other . I always thought you should ,ove each other not abuse each other
Any way people who abuse will get there karma

Guys who hit women do it to make up for their small penises


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he i hate seeing any man hit a women but on the the other hand a women who does the same is just as big of a low life as a male who it good with his fists . But hey its not the hitting that is bad what about the mental and verbal abuse to me that is just as bad .

I put up with a man hitting me for ten years and mentally abusing me, but God be my judge now if any man raised his hand to me now i swear i would half kill him.


Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind ~

Ive seen it. in the store in public. it pisses me off


I made a club called The-Club-of-people-who-bash-their-heads-on-the-hoods-of-cars
Population 5

Who wants to join?

The real victims of abusive relationships are the children, the damage that is done to their minds can scar them for life. Men who have issues with low self esteem or whatever should seek help, not take it out on their partners or wife. Man to man the majority of these woman beaters are nothing but cowards when it comes to confronting the male gender , maybe they seen their parents abusing each other so they assume its ok. No one man or woman has the right to abuse each other, my heart goes out to the children in these abusive relationships.

a man that would and does hit a woman is a coward. he would dare raise his hand to a man like that! A man that hits a woman should be horse whipped, branded on the forehead and his penis removed!

my ex hubby raised his fist to me in the rd i live in i beat the crap out of him,as i was leaveing i heard him call me a bitch so i went back he was still on the floor so i kicked the crap out of him again.


A great man once told me,
I was beutiful,
SO I MARRIED HIM.
Now he tells me every day.