I'm just wondering what you guys think of this dating style.

Say a guy is single and he joins a dating site. He spends hours each night on the dating site and emails with at least 10 girls. He arranges to meet them all. He goes on dates with say girl 1 two times before he might meet girl 2 and might go on 5 dates with girl 2 before seeing girl 5 etc etc.

At what point does he stop going on dates? I mean if you went on 5 dates with someone do you owe them before you keep meeting these other women and keep in mind it's more than one person he is going on all these dates with.

His msn is always beeping and it's all these women asking to talk to him. He has his favorites and others he keeps at bay in case the other ones he went dating with a few times doe not work out.

He will have 3 msn chats all at the same time and has to write down stuff to remember each one.

Is this the new form of dating or is this a player?

Perhaps he's keeping his options open

I never really get the whole internet dating thing anyway.

I don't know either. I would think that maybe going on a few one dates is keeping options open but to meet all these girls and keep meeting them after you have been on several dates with some of them sounds shady to me.

For me, I need to meet one person at a time and go from there.

I've never been on a date with someone I wasn't already sleeping with though, so I don't really know how meaningful they are.

I can't imagine they'd be particularly fun though. Sitting awkwardly with someone you don't know, not sure if they like you or sure if it is acceptable to sleep with them at that stage or whether you have to wait a while. The whole concept sounds excruciating to me.

I have a girl friend that mainly meets LOCAL guys online and goes on date after date after date with them.

She's currently has been with one for about two months and they met online.

For some it works, for others it doesn't.

If he is upfront with the women he dates, then I think it's ok. But if he isn't then it's kind of sketchy.

It's not so much that he is meeting them online. It's how he is dating these women.

Like today for example, he made arrangements to see a girl that he has seen 4 times already and this weekend he has plans to meet another girl he has not met and also go on a date with a another girl he saw a couple times.

At what point do you think he is cheating? Does he owe it to tell them especially after like 5 dates with someone?

It sounds odd to me.

He does sound like a player

Then he is what i would call a player. If he's intention is not really finding and staying with one person but constantly going on dates, while keeping others a bay.

Hes not really interested in a realtionship, more just fun, sex, maybe even an image boost.

I think that too based on what he is doing and I think it makes him look really bad. Especially when he slipped up with that girl on the phone last night.

But to talk to him, he says he wants a relationships but just wants to keep his options open and not settle for one until he finds the right one. But yet he makes out and that with these girls.

I really think it is going to backfire and he will end up alone. I am a little concerned because he is family and I want him to be happy but he is acting like a man whore, to me anyways.

Ask him, if the women he has dated 4 or 5 times were seeing other people how would that make him feel? Maybe he's just not seeing it from anyone else's side of the fence.

Funny you say that because I have passing thoughts of that too. See, he is so not that way at all but his dating style is like he is that way. He has one that is his favorite and says he will not see her if she is seeing someone else.

Maybe it is a thing of a guy can do it but it's not classy if a man does it.

I don't want to make him wrong but he is family and comes to me for advice and help and he really does want to find someone. He is really lonely. Maybe it is lonely part that is causing him to seek out so many women??