i found with me that my mature help control assertiveness to be think out the situation .i hope think of all sides of the issues, before i react to it. mature taught me patient deal with people who don't think before act on things.
i understand the term:
wearing other person's shoes.
i was told on the forum that i don't get angry or don't get mad at people. i do i try to be calm and rationally, when i am on the forum. i like think my rationally thinking is show more than my feelings with members. i get really mad get off the forum and cool off.
assertiveness, i like think that is using more common sense than be pighead or an ass. i am can stubborn at times, and will be pighead or ass, stick with a point . i do like a point beat it to the ground , even i don't win the argument. in my nature. i want other persons know my points, no matter how many i repeat it . to me, more principle to me. letting go of the point. i think that people think i am a little pighead , when i do that that. why everybody love me.
back in 70's, i wonder i was assertive in my 20's, i found out by reading all assertiveness books that i was. i would said that i was a shy person back then. slowly, open up to express myself in general. let out things that bother me, that i held in. others said that i have hold back thin , be more adult and calm. they were right that i had to be in the work place and in the real world.
i believe in myself or a long time, and will stand up and speak out what i believe in. nowsdays, i use and common sense and be rationally to heard.