Do people really find helping other people out weird?

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In Your Mind's Eye, Antarctica

Dec 23, 2010 @ 11:20:50

So there have been a lot of times when I will race over to help someone and when I'm done I'll get weird looks or even comments like "Why'd he do that?" or "Why'd you do that?". Which the answer is simple because I can and the person needed help. Which to me is the normal thing yet from the looks I get, it makes me wonder do people really find this weird? What is so abnormal about helping others, even with remedial things that people would find it weird?

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boxerdc

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#2

Dec 23, 2010 @ 11:29:51

People give you those weird looks and ask why you did it because the people that you're helping didn't need help... and they wonder about your cape and tights as well.

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GiantSpiderGoat

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In Your Mind's Eye, Antarctica

#3

Dec 23, 2010 @ 11:32:17

@boxerdc Said

People give you those weird looks and ask why you did it because the people that you're helping didn't need help... and they wonder about your cape and tights as well.

Haha If only I could do that. Although I've never seen a superhero carry an old ladies groceries to the bus stop and wait with here there.

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BozieFozie

Life's a Beach

Paradise, Florida

#4

Dec 23, 2010 @ 11:57:30

I had some old geezer snap at me when I offered to help him carry some water jugs from the grocery. He was struggling mightily, but then just blew me off! I think that politeness and a genuine desire to help one another is so foreign anymore that people are SUSPICIOUS when help is offered. At least that's my experience....and I don't even look like somebody who would harm you!!!

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forensicgrl94

inspector gadget

Aberdeen, United Kingdom

#5

Dec 23, 2010 @ 12:04:15

if its help with shopping bags then the first thought in most peoples mind in these times would be on crap im getting mugged. and not the intended oh what a nice boy helping me with my things, sad really

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Demented

, Australia

#6

Dec 23, 2010 @ 12:09:24

@BozieFozie Said

I had some old geezer snap at me when I offered to help him carry some water jugs from the grocery. He was struggling mightily, but then just blew me off! I think that politeness and a genuine desire to help one another is so foreign anymore that people are SUSPICIOUS when help is offered. At least that's my experience....and I don't even look like somebody who would harm you!!!

People today are to afraid to step outside the circle they live in.The old fella you asked if you could help probably had to many just let him struggle and laugh when he spilt it,or was just a grumpy old man anyway, I tried to help a young woman with her baby's Pram up a flight of stairs once and got told to F@#K off and get my F #@king hands off the Pram, I looked at my wife,shrugged and walked on.

The people of the world have become rude but maybe it reflects on the way we've been treated by many others.

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kaydoh

nottingham, United Kingdom

#7

Dec 23, 2010 @ 13:01:45

I have had that a lot in my life. A few years ago I helped my ex find his mother who he had never met. He asked me to go with him to meet her and I did. She then started asking questions like what was my agenda in all this? WTF my agenda was to show support to the father of my child at a time when he needed someone to be there. why do I have to have an agenda?
Sad reflection on society.

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forensicgrl94

inspector gadget

Aberdeen, United Kingdom

#8

Dec 23, 2010 @ 13:19:38

foamy the squirl oh how i love thee

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sTreetAngeL

root tedt ree

in a paradox,

#9

Dec 23, 2010 @ 17:39:08

@BozieFozie Said

I had some old geezer snap at me when I offered to help him carry some water jugs from the grocery. He was struggling mightily, but then just blew me off! I think that politeness and a genuine desire to help one another is so foreign anymore that people are SUSPICIOUS when help is offered. At least that's my experience....and I don't even look like somebody who would harm you!!!

I think in this case, it was more a pride thing...It must be horrid for a man, whose been strong most of his life, to suddenly be in the spot of a weak person...Then to make matters worse, a 'woman' offers to help him carry it.

(Although I'm certain your intentions were good).

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lil_bear01

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In my igloo, Canada

#10

Dec 23, 2010 @ 17:55:23

Because the world has become very 'cynical'.

Right or wrong, it's the way of things now.

Elderly people are no different than anyone else and can be even more rude than a younger person because it's in their personalities and what they have experienced.

I used to give money to panhandlers and I no longer do that. Why? because I knew half of them drank or drugged it up.

Now! I've chosen to help in other ways.

I'm hoping my cynical view changes back to the old way of thinking that helping in any way was a great thing to do without second guessing myself..

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BozieFozie

Life's a Beach

Paradise, Florida

#11

Dec 23, 2010 @ 18:11:01

@sTreetAngeL Said

I think in this case, it was more a pride thing...It must be horrid for a man, whose been strong most of his life, to suddenly be in the spot of a weak person...Then to make matters worse, a 'woman' offers to help him carry it.

(Although I'm certain your intentions were good).

Hmmm, good perspective, Street!! I hadn't thought of that, just was so shocked that he could be so rude back to me. *sigh* Oh well, there are PLENTY of people who do say "Thanks" when a good deed is done. Anyway, no good deed goes unnoticed, IMO!!!

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sTreetAngeL

root tedt ree

in a paradox,

#12

Dec 23, 2010 @ 18:20:56

@BozieFozie Said

Anyway, no good deed goes unnoticed, IMO!!!

Exactly!...and maybe inside he was feeling all soft and thankful, that if the situation was 'dire' at least he would have had help...you just never know what may be going through someone elses mind.
Keep that good heart though!

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boxerdc

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#13

Dec 23, 2010 @ 18:36:17

I never offer to help.. I look threatening, and on occasions when I have offered to help (especially with white women), they've usually ended up clutching their handbags for dear life and softly saying "no, no, no" as they back away..

I actually had one instance with an asian woman on the subway in NYC.. She left her umbrella on the seat as she got up to get off the train at her stop.. I first said "Excuse me" a couple of times, but she refused to acknowledge me.. So, stupid me, I picked up her umbrella and walked up behind her. I tapped her on the shoulder as the train doors were opening whereupon she began to scream loudly and flail wildly at me.

I ended up pressed up against a beam in the station with a cop holding a gun to my head as the another questioned me about "assaulting" her. She, umbrella in hand, said nothing in my defense.

So, now, if you look like you need help, you should look elsewhere.

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GiantSpiderGoat

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#14

Dec 23, 2010 @ 18:42:23

@boxerdc Said

I never offer to help.. I look threatening, and on occasions when I have offered to help (especially with white women), they've usually ended up clutching their handbags for dear life and softly saying "no, no, no" as they back away..

I actually had one instance with an asian woman on the subway in NYC.. She left her umbrella on the seat as she got up to get off the train at her stop.. I first said "Excuse me" a couple of times, but she refused to acknowledge me.. So, stupid me, I picked up her umbrella and walked up behind her. I tapped her on the shoulder as the train doors were opening whereupon she began to scream loudly and flail wildly at me.

I ended up pressed up against a beam in the station with a cop holding a gun to my head as the another questioned me about "assaulting" her. She, umbrella in hand, said nothing in my defense.

So, now, if you look like you need help, you should look elsewhere.

If it makes you feel any better. I've walked past a car with old people in it before and herd there locks suddenly slam down.

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someone_else

Not a dude.

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American Alps, Washington

#15

Dec 23, 2010 @ 20:01:43

@boxerdc Said

I never offer to help.. I look threatening, and on occasions when I have offered to help (especially with white women), they've usually ended up clutching their handbags for dear life and softly saying "no, no, no" as they back away..

I actually had one instance with an asian woman on the subway in NYC.. She left her umbrella on the seat as she got up to get off the train at her stop.. I first said "Excuse me" a couple of times, but she refused to acknowledge me.. So, stupid me, I picked up her umbrella and walked up behind her. I tapped her on the shoulder as the train doors were opening whereupon she began to scream loudly and flail wildly at me.

I ended up pressed up against a beam in the station with a cop holding a gun to my head as the another questioned me about "assaulting" her. She, umbrella in hand, said nothing in my defense.

So, now, if you look like you need help, you should look elsewhere.

I want to put a laughy face here but this isn't funny.

The reason I'd be putting a laughy face here is that if that ere me , I'd have been horrible startled that someone got that close to me without me noticing. I'm not big on crowds so when I'm in one, I get hyper sensitive about someone rapidly approaching my personal space.

So yeah, if that happened to me, I might let out a little yelp...but the moment I saw my umbrella in your hand, I'd probably calm down. I certainly would have said something to the cop.

As for the OP, I don't find it weird at all.

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