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Oct 11, 2009 @ 01:04:21

#16

floydgirrl

evil genius

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73714 points

99/F/In my bunker!, Holy See (Vatic
Join Date: Apr 2008

It's always my fault. I take all the blame. It really is difficult for my exbf's to be with a girl as great and wonderful as me.

I am an evil giraffe, and I shall eat more leaves from this tree then prehaps I should, so that other giraffes may die

Oct 11, 2009 @ 01:07:11

#17

lilbear

Aequitas / Veritas!

Über-Monkey
55096 points

109/F/, Canada
Join Date: Jan 2008

I dated aliens and it was ALL THEIR fault!

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You can complain because roses have thorns or you can rejoice because thorns have roses! *Attitude Is The Key*

Oct 11, 2009 @ 01:07:50

#18

lilbear

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Über-Monkey
55096 points

109/F/, Canada
Join Date: Jan 2008

floYdgirrl said:

It's always my fault. I take all the blame. It really is difficult for my exbf's to be with a girl as great and wonderful as me.

*cough* HI!

___________________________________________

You can complain because roses have thorns or you can rejoice because thorns have roses! *Attitude Is The Key*

Oct 11, 2009 @ 02:04:52

#19

abzenze

Über-Meister
1868 points

19/F/unknown, Australia
Join Date: Oct 2008

well generally it would be my own state of maturity at the time.. when i was younger say 12 - 17(lol not long ago )i went through phases.. bad boys, metro boys etc.. then realizing it was all a stupid little ego game i left and went solo..

when i was young i sought for the wrong qualities in a male deluding myself that this is happiness .. its a twisted view of love.. so if you get the core of love wrong everything in that path will follow.. most girls are generally insecure and seek for a mans validation of their own worth. thats where i went i wrong.. each insecurity of mine attracted a specific type and if i didnt stop to reflect i would still be in the same scenerio... so it was me and the type i was chasing ..

communication is an issue .. alot of men hate intimacy or are scared .. intimacy as in deep coversations about themselves and being real.. so even when i did pursue it i was either not what they wanted or they were afraid to be real.. i found it hard to establish a friendship with any current boyfriend.. i honestly think they are scared or they had no intentions on being a friend .. or if they did speak they usually go back in hiding and leave ...

now the biggest issue for me is trust , i dont really trust the male population or people generally.. anything that intense and intimate mutates your own social skills but i still love everyone lol but i dun like getting close to people.. so thats a brief outlay

your character determines your destiny..

Edited: October 11, 2009 @ 02:10

Oct 11, 2009 @ 05:04:16

#20

MaleAttract101

Über-Commander
143 points

38/M/New york, New York
Join Date: Oct 2009

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it's the females fault. The average person dates with the intention of having a relationship that last. If the relationship didn't work out, then there's a reason why. There are occasions where neither party feels that there can be a relationship.This is perfectly fine. I am referring to women who have been in and out of relationships with no success. In my couseling sessions with women, I hear all sorts of reasons as to why the relationship didn't work.One thing I did recognize is that the women were noticeably bothered by their dating experience. I don't mind having a 'target' on my forehead. I want to hear from women who are honest and wouldn't mind sharing their experiences.

W.R

Oct 11, 2009 @ 05:07:50

#21

panda

Debater
5186 points

41/F/, Texas
Join Date: Sep 2009

MaleAttract101 said:

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it's the females fault. The average person dates with the intention of having a relationship that last. If the relationship didn't work out, then there's a reason why. There are occasions where neither party feels that there can be a relationship.This is perfectly fine. I am referring to women who have been in and out of relationships with no success. In my couseling sessions with women, I hear all sorts of reasons as to why the relationship didn't work.One thing I did recognize is that the women were noticeably bothered by their dating experience. I don't mind having a 'target' on my forehead. I want to hear from women who are honest and wouldn't mind sharing their experiences.

W.R

My apologies. I thought this thread was a joke. Welcome to TFS.

Oct 11, 2009 @ 05:21:15

#22

DiscordTiger

On the Random Train

Moderator
Points Whore Master
65474 points

33/F/Albuquerque Area, New Mexico
Join Date: Apr 2008

iwannano said:

M _ W _ TH _ it was my fault and T -F - S - Su it was his fault .

I totally read this as:

*edited curse word* my fault was TFS and Sue was his fault.

and I was totally confused, TFS broke you up?

and yeah its totally random, but I felt the need to share.

I did figure out what you meant, eventually, and yeah its usually both people that share part of the blame. Even if when we are hurt, we want to blame the other person

Oct 11, 2009 @ 05:52:02

#23

violettepaule

Apprentice
36 points

24/F/sanclemente, California
Join Date: Oct 2009

I will say is to love the f***ing challenge. I'm always up for lost causes. makes me angry when something doesnt work how I want to. so I try to fix it, no matter what it takes. at the end I always loose, cause I could take a car apart, but with people there is never enough tools.

Oct 11, 2009 @ 08:09:13

#24

MaleAttract101

Über-Commander
143 points

38/M/New york, New York
Join Date: Oct 2009

iwannano said:

I was akmost taking the OP for serious until I read that last "let it all hang out" line.

Actually, I am very serious(in a harmless way). I took an interest in the area of relationships early on in life. I was intrigued by the mechanics of getting along with, and eventually loving, someone different from myself. I've counseled hundreds of men and women over the years and discovered that women (in particular) struggled in relationships(not to imply that men don't struggle). My heart went out to these women because they seemed to have given of themselves to the point where they felt as if they had nothing left to give. I couldn't help but ask the question 'why?' All of the stories sounded the same...Sally met Frank...Frank won over Sally's heart...Sally gave herself to Frank...Frank runs off with Sally's best friend. The reason why I joined this forum (I've never done a forum..ever)was to continue to explore a woman's view of men and relationships.

P.S
I know the last line was a bit 'cheezy' but my goal is to have a open and honest discussion...no funny stuff

Oct 11, 2009 @ 08:11:50

#25

MaleAttract101

Über-Commander
143 points

38/M/New york, New York
Join Date: Oct 2009

Panda said:

My apologies. I thought this thread was a joke. Welcome to TFS.

Thank you.
I'm still trying to figure out how this forum stuff works

However, I really was serious about the thread. What's your thoughts?

W.R

Oct 11, 2009 @ 08:18:06

#26

MaleAttract101

Über-Commander
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38/M/New york, New York
Join Date: Oct 2009

plebian_angel said:

It takes two to make or break or a relationship.

iwannano said:

I was akmost taking the OP for serious until I read that last "let it all hang out" line.

Panda said:

My apologies. I thought this thread was a joke. Welcome to TFS.

Good point.
There are times in a relationship where both people are to blame. I guess what I was trying to ask was,'what is it about men that women can't seem to figure out?' I'm interested in a woman's point of view.

W.R

Oct 11, 2009 @ 08:38:42

#27

MaleAttract101

Über-Commander
143 points

38/M/New york, New York
Join Date: Oct 2009

abzenze said:

well generally it would be my own state of maturity at the time.. when i was younger say 12 - 17(lol not long ago

)i went through phases.. bad boys, metro boys etc.. then realizing it was all a stupid little ego game i left and went solo..

when i was young i sought for the wrong qualities in a male deluding myself that this is happiness .. its a twisted view of love.. so if you get the core of love wrong everything in that path will follow.. most girls are generally insecure and seek for a mans validation of their own worth. thats where i went i wrong.. each insecurity of mine attracted a specific type and if i didnt stop to reflect i would still be in the same scenerio... so it was me and the type i was chasing ..

communication is an issue .. alot of men hate intimacy or are scared .. intimacy as in deep coversations about themselves and being real.. so even when i did pursue it i was either not what they wanted or they were afraid to be real.. i found it hard to establish a friendship with any current boyfriend.. i honestly think they are scared or they had no intentions on being a friend

.. or if they did speak they usually go back in hiding and leave ...

now the biggest issue for me is trust , i dont really trust the male population or people generally.. anything that intense and intimate mutates your own social skills

but i still love everyone lol but i dun like getting close to people.. so thats a brief outlay

Thanks for being so honest.
You have obviously had some experiences in the dating world.Let me start off by saying that men and women are different. I know that sounds redundant but it bares repeating.Women (generally) are more in tune with their emotional being, while men tend to be more logical in there thinking and actions. Men are raised to be harsh (once again, I speaking generalistically).Think about it...when little girls fall down and scrape their little knees, daddy picks them up and kisses them on their 'hurt spot'...but if little Johnny falls down and scrapes his knee, daddy says,'get up Johnny!' 'Stop that crying...your a big boy and big boys don't cry!'So, from an early age men are taught to ignore or suppress their feelings. This behavior is carried over into adulthood and into relationships.To most men, logic overrides emotion. There are other things that women need to understand about men in order to have fruitful relationships with them-but I'll wait until another post for that

Talk again soon

W.R

Oct 11, 2009 @ 08:58:43

#28

Calypso

spankable deity

Minister+
12002 points

35/F/Tenterden / kent, United Kingd
Join Date: Feb 2009

its all my fault as i seem to be atracted to a bit of a bad boy...and they usually end up hurting me some way or another...what i need is a bad boy who knows how to treat a woman xx

Oct 11, 2009 @ 09:07:18

#29

plebian_angel

Intergalactic hussy

Twinky+
99899 points

34/F/Paradise minus one, Wisconsin
Join Date: Apr 2008

Calypso said:

its all my fault as i seem to be atracted to a bit of a bad boy...and they usually end up hurting me some way or another...what i need is a bad boy who knows how to treat a woman xx

There's a difference between a bad boy and a loser.
Depends how you define bad boy though.

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Plebs

Maxi

Oct 11, 2009 @ 09:10:10

#30

Calypso

spankable deity

Minister+
12002 points

35/F/Tenterden / kent, United Kingd
Join Date: Feb 2009

plebian_angel said:

There's a difference between a bad boy and a loser.
Depends how you define bad boy though.

yeah thats true...some have been losers..but i havnt found that out at the start...ive tried dating the so called good guy but i get bored..lol

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