@marisa2659 Said
HI everyone,
I while ago asked for your opinion about me going out with a younger guy I had met and wanted to go out with me regardless of the fact that Im married and 11 years older. Some of you told me to go for it, and I did. We had a wonderful time together from drinks to sex. From the moment we met he asked if it was going to be just one time or an ongoing thing like he really wanted it to continue. He was very sweet and made it obvious (mentioning several times and even planning our next date)that he wanted to see me again even though he thought i will not remember him next day.I did not believe him and did not expect to hear from him again. However, next day he sent me a text to let me know he was still thinking of me. I reply by saying "hi sweet boy ... you remember me! because of our prior conversation. I didn't hear from him again for three days when he finally sent me a very cold text saying Whats up. I repply back and have not heard from him again. What the hell is going on? How does a guy act so interested after the first date and then stops? Did I insult him calling him sweet boy. Help me understand cause I am out of touch.
Hi there. No, you are not out of touch, perhaps just not practiced in the art of infidelity, which is not a bad thing.
Look, let's face it - he knows you're married. You have to allow that maybe he really likes you, but just can't face the fact that you go home to someone else.
No, you didn't insult him in any way. It sounds like a lot was said in terms of looking to another date, but given your personal circumstances, you'll have to forgive him if he now has cold feet. As far as he is concerned , you are sleeping with 2 guys - no matter what you told him. His ego just may not be able to handle that - and to be honest (forgive me) I don't blame him. Dating married people is a surefire way to sorrow - and most people know this.
I don't know what you feel for this guy - would you be prepared to leave your husband for him? You don't have to answer that, it's a question for you to just think about. But if the answer is no, you have no right to expect anything from him. Sorry, but it's only fair.