Has she apologised. I say dumb stuff when im drunk sometimes like that. Next day im usually mortified and apologise.

Ihave my best friends husband on my msn buddy list I talk to him as much as I do to her if not more, but then again none of us have any insecureities about the whole thing .

I've mulled it over in my mind and I've figured what I must do.

Thank you all for your help.

she is but i remember a while back someone givig me this advice

You can have one girlfriend but no girl friends or loads of girl firends but no girlfriend - that might apply for male as well - best not getting involved if you ask me

if you werent friends with him before dont start now because that is excactly what it is going to look like. i'm sorry that you guys have a rocky relationship. my brother and i used to be the same way but since i moved out things got way better. all brother/sister relationships have ups and downs. maybe you should just tell her how you feel and depicked your next actions off of how she takes it. as far as him, your sisters friendship should come way before his. if he is over just say hi and dont sound happy about it or something. or just tell her straight out that you have no interest in him at all cause you have a crush on so and so. but purposly being his friend will make thing really nasty. think of how you would want her to treat your boyfriend and then do that good luck though