Everyone has positives and negatives. Find someone else whose negatives you can tolerate.

You are apparently with man model number XJ-00897 which usually lives most of its life alone and gets used to the habbit of putting off house chores until he gets the notion.

You sound like you're very immaculate. Stop and ask what you do like about him and if you can replace that easily.

The ironic thing is that once he does wind up with someone whom treasures him to the point where he can actually feel it, he might turn around and become a whole new person.

No it's not all men you have just got yourself a bad egg. I am extremely apprecitative of my girlfreind i have started to earn a lot of money recently and i buy her a lot of gifts and i spend every possible second with her making sure she is happy and loved ( she is not a gold digga i have been with her since school) and i would appreciate it if you didnt say why dont men appreciate women when its damn clear some do.

If or when I move in with mt bf I'm no way going to be his 'mum' cleaning and cooking for him. He is quite domesticated and a better cook than me lol so hopefully it won't happen.

What was the state of his place before you moved it?

If his place was decent and acceptable to you when you moved in, then I'd say the problem is you. If you keeping doing everything, then he won't, it really is that simple. You have to let the place get dirty so he'll be able to see everything that you do. See, if there's someone there who cleans up everything, a person gets out of the habit of setting little mental notes for themselves : Trash is getting full, take it out, etc, because instead what happenes? They see trash is getting full, and then he gets distracted or whatever, but nothing bad happens, the trash seems to empty itself! Whereas if the next time he looked at the trash it was: Oh, Trash is *really* getting full, remember to take it out this afternoon, that would be natural reminder number two that doesn't happen when you do it for him. The brain gets out of the habit of these natural reminders and mental notes when problems seem to disappear by themselves. A person forgets that trash needs to be taken out every x number of days. It's not malicious on his part. You simply need to stop doing the things you resent doing.

Now that's not to say he can't make a decision to take some initiative, but if you run around cleaning all the time, it actually makes it harder for him to catch up to you and find something that hasn't already been done. So back off the housework a little bit and give him some opportunities to get back into the groove of things.

Now, if the state of his place was below par for you before you moved in, this problem will never go away, the two of you simply have two different standards of what's acceptable. Either you will resent him, or he will resent you, or both. You cannot expect that you can nag him into having the same standards you have, he will only come to resent you and the nagging. At that point you'll need to evaluate your priorities, is the relationship more important than how frequently he vacuums, or is this a deal breaker for you?

pretend you've got a bad arm worked for me i aint hoovered in ages,

When I moved in with my ex partner many years ago he had been living on his own for 3 years, a few days in came walking into the lounge with an arm full of washed clothes and said his ironing need doing then put it down next to me,, I asked him who did it before I was there and he said he did it himself, with that I picked up the clothes, put them back into his arms and said, I tell you what, ill plug the iron in for you then shall I? his face was a picture but he never asked again.