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aprilzomg
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7 points
20/F/austin, Texas
Join Date: Sep 2008 | I had an abortion 3 months ago, and the funny thing is that everyone says there are other options, but are there really?
The same people who always complained about their taxes going to support stupid mom's and dad's who have children that they can't provide for were the same ones telling me that I can get government help. Then, there was always the choice of adoption, right? No. Do you know how many unwanted children are thrown into orphanages each year, and are STILL unwanted? The world is overpopulated, everyone wants to have their own child, their own legacy. Less and less people are choosing to adopt. And, due to recent technological advances, the couples who used to find themselves clouded with infertility are now just paying for in vitro instead of adopting. Abortion was the only right choice for me. Do I wish I would have had a more plausible option? of course I do. Do I feel remorse? At times, yes. But, I'm not all torn up inside. Oh, and here's a great pro-choice quote "if you can't trust me to make a decision in regards to myself, then how the f*** could you trust me with a child"??? |  | |
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El_Tino
booyaka!
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Bogey Man
78399 points
30/M/Las Cruces, New Mexico
Join Date: Oct 2004 | angeldelight said:
everyone seems to be zooming in on ones beliefs and the proccess itself.think about the complications that can arise after a abortion is complete.a woman still suffers certain ailments from an abortion regrdless if this was the right choice for her,at the end of the day,her feelings should be taken into account,its the same as being down after a misscarriage..this occurs not only from guilt,sadness,anger but as a result in the drastic fall of pregnancy hormones that was present befor the procedure is done..this alone can play havoc on the womans mental state,its all too common for teary eyes all round.
other psychological melt downs after abortion
Studies show, those most likely to "regret" their abortion are people who didn't really want it in the first place, or were harassed excessively by protesters outside the abortion clinic.
And, not surprisingly, people that are depressed or anxious for a period of time before their abortion, are likely to be so after the abortion. Unless, however, the depression or anxiety is caused by the prospect of an unwanted pregnancy, in which case the typical feeling post-abortion is relief.
Post-Abortion Syndrome is not a medically recognized diagnosis by the American Psychiatic Association. | | | |
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cailyn10289
Scottish on Fridays
Über Master Debater
9729 points
20/F/, United States (general)
Join Date: Nov 2007 | cosy said:
I am 18 and had an abortion 2 weeks ago. I was doing just fine until -i know its stupid- a friend of mine posted a link on facebook to the terrifying (well im sorry but it was) picture of a torn to pices fetus with the title: "abortion is the cry of an innocent child "mom i would have loved you.""  i couldnt reply. i used to have such a strong character and think i coudl go trhough everything. my parents parted when i was 15 and i dont really see my father. my boyfriend loves me and was there for me and we decided it together. i didnt even think about it. i just knew i didnt want a baby, i wanted my life and unievrsity and not to get married yet, i am also very selfish and dont feel ready to put another person first. ive always been pro abortion or at least pro choice. i was always thinking it was simple. but then ever since i saw that link i feel so guilty and i feel like i will never get over it, never forget it. i was really doing so fine and pretending it never happened, but now i knwo i will never be able to substain an argument about it i feel so vulnerable and its scaring me. i have noone to talk to cause my friend are all republicans and they would hate me if i told them. we also talk about it a lot in class and thye usually say terrible things about women who had abortion, and i used to argue but now i won't be able to. what if the argument starts and i break in tears? i'm so ashamed and i feel like everybody will hate me cause so many people here are against it, and even on facebook its full of groups of people who are against abortion! i used to think grown up women thought of it as normal and well, were mainly pro choice. im moving next year for university and now i cant wait cause i want to run away from my past. i really feel like i made a decision that will ryin my life. i would so use someone who sùhad my experience to talk to. please help me. i feel so lost. and please, please dont attack me. i am 18. i know i was very stupid to not use contraception but i didnt think i would get pregnant. and i thought it was a lot easier. now i feel so lonely like nobody would like me if they knew. help me.
When a woman gets an abortion, there are a lot of hormonal changes in the body, so that could contribute to your depression and anxiety right now. You're body will be normal again, so hopefully that will help.
You should stop listening to what others tell you, because chances are you won't even be thinking of them in 10 years or so. The only person who matters is you, so only listen to yourself! If you depend on others opinions too much it will cause lots of problems whether you had an abortion or not.
The link your "friend" posted on facebook is nothing but a scare tactic. People who are apposed to abortion use graphic pictures and gruesome stories into scaring people out of what they think is right. Don't fall for it.
A lot of women get an abortion for the same reasons you did, so you are definitely not alone. You would of had to sacrifice your dreams if you had a baby. People spout off "adoption", but there are already thousands of unwanted children in orphanages.
A lot of young girls don't think they can get pregnant, and when they do it's terrifying. People make mistakes all the time, and most of the time there are ways to fix them.
I would suggest getting some counseling sessions because getting an abortion can be hard to get through. But with help and determination, you will be able to move on with your life, and become a mother when you want to.
I hope everything starts to look up for you. If you need to talk send me a PM.  | | | |
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Ana_Thema
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4 points
23/F/port st lucie, Florida
Join Date: Oct 2009 | cenasangel said:
I truely resent abortion being put in the same catergory as a miscarrage. It is NOT the same thing and could not be more different. The woman having a miscarrage did not ask for that unfortunate event to come apon her, whereas a woman who has an abortion has made a cold and calculated decision to end her pregnancy and quite frankly deserves everything she gets plus some.
That opinion will change when it's your 16-year old daughter knocked up..... | | | |
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Ana_Thema
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4 points
23/F/port st lucie, Florida
Join Date: Oct 2009 | cenasangel said:
I truely resent abortion being put in the same catergory as a miscarrage. It is NOT the same thing and could not be more different. The woman having a miscarrage did not ask for that unfortunate event to come apon her, whereas a woman who has an abortion has made a cold and calculated decision to end her pregnancy and quite frankly deserves everything she gets plus some.
momof2 said:
A miscarriage is NOTHING like an abortion! I have had 2 miscarriages and i think quite often of the child i lost. I did not make that choice to not have my child....when a woman walks into an abortion clinic and proceeds with this procedure they know damn well what they are doing. That child NEVER had a chance!An abortion is a CHOICE, a miscarriage isn't!!!!
Both of you are such a happy pair of self righteous wenches, now aren't you? I was 16 when I had to have an abortion. I was devastated beyond belief. My heart could not have broken more. I believe every woman has the right to choose what is right for her own life, but that doesnt mean that we don't feel anything for it. It is true there are women out there who seem to genuinely not think twice. But a vast majority live with shame....most of which, btw, is brought on by the types of comments made by people like you. It is not a cold, calculated choice. It is a choice a mother must make. The psychological effects of miscarriage versus abortion are, in fact, virtually the same. Sorry to burst your bubble. The fact is that the maternal bond is there, we just CHOOSE not to put an innocent life into a situation where it's not wanted, or can't be cared for. In the long run, I think it's more evil to create a life you cannot take care of and add to the millions of women on welfare or the children in state care, then to terminate a mass of cells that lacks even the basic ability to feel. | | | |
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