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shinobinoz
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50/M/Wichita, Kansas Join Date: Oct 2008 | rainbowz09 said:
thanx thats a big help
Rainbowz09. I hope this is not the case where you are from. Some places fault the victim- even to the extreme of punishing of even killing the victim. My thoughts and prayers to anyone molested or raped.
If you or someone you know has been. Be a good listener and have their back. They do not need to be further traumitized. Anyone here with a good link or group for someone in the middle east? | | |
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sugarflyguy
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39/M/Somewhere in the UK, United Ki Join Date: Sep 2008 | rainbowz09 said:
is molestation somehow same as rape coz in both the victim is sexually abuse
cajunforjesus said:
I associate molestation with kids I think. And rape is adults.
Rape is not exclusively for adults, it can happen unfortunately for kids as well

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Charlemagne
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57/M/Houston, Join Date: Jun 2009 | rainbowz09 said:
is molestation somehow same as rape coz in both the victim is sexually abuse
Not really, it's possible for a young impressionable teenager to be willingly molested, but not raped.
Rape is completely violent and always by force. | | |
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MirLou
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43/F/Cork, Ireland Join Date: Mar 2009 | Having read through this thread I feel compelled to make a comment and speaking from experience I will say this -- it's a costly thing to even try to mention, never mind put in print.
1. It is impossible for anyone to try to carry on with life as if nothing ever happened after an experience of molestation or rape.
2. It is very difficult to try mention such things to your own, due to fear of not being believed or being looked on being the cause of it.
3. Looking back, I know well now, that I was not to blame, I did not ask for such, neither try encourage such -- however, it does not ease the pain of hurt -- feeling of shame, filth and guilt.
4. I was interfered with as a child, later when a teenager, and then as an adult. Each case was completely different and while the last was the most severe, it hasn't left any deeper marks than the first, because all affect ones mind and thoughts and the scars remain for life.
5. Counselling is good, especially if can get to the place of trust with an understanding caring individual -- however, certain issues will keep recurring.
Never, ever, try tell someone to "Forget about it and get on with life." Such is not possible andit's only a person who knows nothing about such can utter those words, which are actually most hurtful and offensive to the victim involved.
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Charlemagne
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57/M/Houston, Join Date: Jun 2009 | shinobinoz said:
We should never forget to show compassion and the need to understand the victims. We should all be concerned in seeing that this does not occur in our families or community.
Too often it is a family members, friend, or authority figure that is the evil beast within our society.
My heart and thoughts to the far far too many that have to live with this.
Now there's a first. I agreed with Shino. | | |
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arcades
Über-Minister 15762 points


26/M/Northbay, Canada Join Date: Aug 2005 | rainbowz09 said:
is molestation somehow same as rape coz in both the victim is sexually abuse
No there very different.
Molestation is when trust is abused and the person being molested has yet to learn that it wrong and not normal.
Rape is when both perpatraitor and victim know it's wrong and the perp has to force himself on his victim. | | |
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arcades
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26/M/Northbay, Canada Join Date: Aug 2005 | kaydoh said:
I believe the definition of rape is being penetrated by anything against your will not neccesarily a penis. So if you insert a finger it's rape if the other person has not consented.
Very true and as far as im concerned any forced sexual contact penitration or no is a form of rape.
Even kissing somone against there will. | | |
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shinobinoz
Debater 7499 points


50/M/Wichita, Kansas Join Date: Oct 2008 | Charlemagne said:
Now there's a first. I agreed with Shino.
See! we should grab a beer with President Obama, Gates and the officer! | | |
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