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Judas![]() Edmonton, Canada | #1 So I got a email from my ex (of six weeks) saying she was going to be home and we should catch up. I'm working an hour from her house so it's easy enough to drive. I haven't really had any human interaction since I left, except at work but that hardly counts, and I'm having a hard time being alone so I was thinking I would. We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me) but at least she tries. I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news. | ||||||
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| chisa96 Supreme Goddess ![]() Out in Nature, Wisconsin | #2 @Judas Said ![]() I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news. It rarely works, not never. | ||||||
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Electric_Banana![]() Pastel Avon Suburbia, New Zeal | #3 @Judas Said ![]() So I got a email from my ex (of six weeks) saying she was going to be home and we should catch up. I'm working an hour from her house so it's easy enough to drive. I haven't really had any human interaction since I left, except at work but that hardly counts, and I'm having a hard time being alone so I was thinking I would. We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me) but at least she tries. I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news. I don't think we're meant to be alone so it's a natural need to have other living people around you most times. But I personally (philosophically) feel that this world is a fake representation of a real one somewhere. And considering possibilities as demonstrated in movies like Surrogates - I never completely trust anyone - Even when I'm speaking to them face to face I'm never quite certain if it is them who I'm speaking to. I've survived though. I've been rejected most of my life and I've always been that guy who teenagers claim they would kill themselves if they grew up to be but I'm nearly forty and toughing through it. So you can make it like I did - Even if it never works out but I don't see what the point of having to live this hollow life is, it's only taught me to be more of a cynical and cold hearted a*****e than when I started off in it. Either way, my point is that you're never alone in being alone. | |||||||
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| Eaglebauer FOSSOR SAPIENS ![]() Saint Louis, Missouri | #4 I will say that I think once two people have been romantically involved, if they split ways it's virutally impossible for them to just be friends afterward. A relationship with romance changes things indelibly. As far as rekindling that same sort of relationship...it all depends. Given the fact that it's only been six weeks and you split up because of her mood swings, do you think it's something you really WANT to return to, or is it just something you're willing to take in lieu of nothing? It seems by what you're saying that the latter is the case. I agree with EB that we're not meant to be alone. Humans aren't wired that way so it's very easy to jump on anything that presents itself when we're lonely...and I know this isn't a huge comfort...but I have also been that lonely before. It's an easy trap to fall into if you aren't careful. | ||||||
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| treebee Government Hooker ![]() London, United Kingdom | #5 is there any reason why you are not dating other girls? | ||||||
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sister_of_mercy![]() London, United Kingdom | #6 If you're lonely when you're alone then you're in bad company. I know that it can be depressing when you're isolated, but if you think of it more like having time to yourself to do the things you want to do instead of anything negative, then it does get a bit easier to cope with. I barely talk to anyone these days and while it can be extremely depressing at times, I am almost grateful for it as well as it means I can do my own thing and not have to worry or care about other people. That said, if you're a sociable person then yes, it does suck. You might want to put yourself out there a bit more and actively try ti meet people if that's your style. | ||||||
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| Kristy69 Carly's Mommy ![]() Underneath the Cyanide Sun.... | #7 @Judas Said ![]() We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me) It's not you. Girls use wicked wiles to lure you in and then the true colors show. She's a psycho because she's a psycho | ||||||
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Reviso![]() Trenton, Canada | #8 @Kristy69 Said ![]() It's not you. Girls use wicked wiles to lure you in and then the true colors show. She's a psycho because she's a psycho Eh, Vixy are you coming on to me are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness? | ||||||
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Reviso![]() Trenton, Canada | #9 @Reviso Said ![]() Eh, Vixy , are you coming on to me, or are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness? | ||||||
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| Kristy69 Carly's Mommy ![]() Underneath the Cyanide Sun.... | #10 @Reviso Said ![]() Eh, Vixy are you coming on to me are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness? I didn't understand that at all and why you're implying that I'm Lethal_vixen I'm really not sure. Guess you haven't been around too long.. | ||||||
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Judas![]() Edmonton, Canada | #11 @Eaglebauer Said ![]() I will say that I think once two people have been romantically involved, if they split ways it's virutally impossible for them to just be friends afterward. A relationship with romance changes things indelibly. As far as rekindling that same sort of relationship...it all depends. Given the fact that it's only been six weeks and you split up because of her mood swings, do you think it's something you really WANT to return to, or is it just something you're willing to take in lieu of nothing? It seems by what you're saying that the latter is the case. I agree with EB that we're not meant to be alone. Humans aren't wired that way so it's very easy to jump on anything that presents itself when we're lonely...and I know this isn't a huge comfort...but I have also been that lonely before. It's an easy trap to fall into if you aren't careful. It's been six weeks since I left. We were together over a year. That's my bad, sorry. | ||||||
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| Kristy69 Carly's Mommy ![]() Underneath the Cyanide Sun.... | #12 I don't like thinking people will never change. When I broke up with my SO a couple years ago, I never said "never again." He changed a lot and so did I. We ended up splitting up again for a few weeks and now we're really working on it (this time we have a new motive, but still). I used to think "Oh, he needs to do this, this and this..." But I realize now there's a lot that I need to work on as well to make this work. It's definitely a two way street. | ||||||
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Judas![]() Edmonton, Canada | #13 It's hard, when you're on the pipeline. There's not much for girls, and when there is, they're usually there with their partner. And I have no luck otherwise, it seems. | ||||||
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Deal_With_It![]() Stevens Pass, Washington | #14 @Kristy69 Said ![]() I don't like thinking people will never change. When I broke up with my SO a couple years ago, I never said "never again." He changed a lot and so did I. We ended up splitting up again for a few weeks and now we're really working on it (this time we have a new motive, but still). I used to think "Oh, he needs to do this, this and this..." But I realize now there's a lot that I need to work on as well to make this work. It's definitely a two way street. You seem wise beyond your age. From my own experience relationships need to be worked on forever. It is a two way street and rarely 50/50. | ||||||
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| sTreetAngeL root tedt ree ![]() in a paradox, | #15 It can work. But in order for it to work, work has to be put into it; and that from 'both' parties. Your ex sounds like she needs psychiatric care; and until she faces that, and does the work necessary, I forsee nothing but misery in such a relationship. | ||||||
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