The Forum Site - Join the conversation
Forums:
Relationships

Being lonely sucks

Reply to Topic
AuthorMessage
Pages: 1 2 3 4 · >>
Judas




Edmonton, Canada
#1New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 04:03:42
So I got a email from my ex (of six weeks) saying she was going to be home and we should catch up. I'm working an hour from her house so it's easy enough to drive.
I haven't really had any human interaction since I left, except at work but that hardly counts, and I'm having a hard time being alone so I was thinking I would.
We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me) but at least she tries.
I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news.
On May 19, 2012
chisa96
Supreme Goddess





Out in Nature, Wisconsin
#2New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 04:53:38
@Judas Said

I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news.



It rarely works, not never.
On May 13, 2013
Electric_Banana




Pastel Avon Suburbia, New Zeal
#3New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 05:07:31
@Judas Said

So I got a email from my ex (of six weeks) saying she was going to be home and we should catch up. I'm working an hour from her house so it's easy enough to drive.
I haven't really had any human interaction since I left, except at work but that hardly counts, and I'm having a hard time being alone so I was thinking I would.
We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me) but at least she tries.
I was told that going back to ex's never work so I'm hoping someone here will tell me that it does. Something with good news.



I don't think we're meant to be alone so it's a natural need to have other living people around you most times.

But

I personally (philosophically) feel that this world is a fake representation of a real one somewhere.

And considering possibilities as demonstrated in movies like Surrogates - I never completely trust anyone - Even when I'm speaking to them face to face I'm never quite certain if it is them who I'm speaking to.

I've survived though. I've been rejected most of my life and I've always been that guy who teenagers claim they would kill themselves if they grew up to be but I'm nearly forty and toughing through it.

So you can make it like I did - Even if it never works out but I don't see what the point of having to live this hollow life is, it's only taught me to be more of a cynical and cold hearted a*****e than when I started off in it.

Either way, my point is that you're never alone in being alone.
On about 17 hours ago
Eaglebauer
FOSSOR SAPIENS





Saint Louis, Missouri
#4New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 05:27:00
I will say that I think once two people have been romantically involved, if they split ways it's virutally impossible for them to just be friends afterward. A relationship with romance changes things indelibly.

As far as rekindling that same sort of relationship...it all depends. Given the fact that it's only been six weeks and you split up because of her mood swings, do you think it's something you really WANT to return to, or is it just something you're willing to take in lieu of nothing? It seems by what you're saying that the latter is the case.

I agree with EB that we're not meant to be alone. Humans aren't wired that way so it's very easy to jump on anything that presents itself when we're lonely...and I know this isn't a huge comfort...but I have also been that lonely before.

It's an easy trap to fall into if you aren't careful.
On 51 minutes ago
treebee
Government Hooker

Moderator




London, United Kingdom
#5New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 09:01:49
is there any reason why you are not dating other girls?
On May 09, 2013
sister_of_mercy




London, United Kingdom
#6New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:52:39
If you're lonely when you're alone then you're in bad company.

I know that it can be depressing when you're isolated, but if you think of it more like having time to yourself to do the things you want to do instead of anything negative, then it does get a bit easier to cope with.

I barely talk to anyone these days and while it can be extremely depressing at times, I am almost grateful for it as well as it means I can do my own thing and not have to worry or care about other people.

That said, if you're a sociable person then yes, it does suck. You might want to put yourself out there a bit more and actively try ti meet people if that's your style.
On about 3 hours ago
Kristy69
Carly's Mommy





Underneath the Cyanide Sun....
#7New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:56:38
@Judas Said


We got along great at first then she changed a bit - started having psychotic mood swings (I'm thinking it's me)


It's not you.
Girls use wicked wiles to lure you in and then the true colors show. She's a psycho because she's a psycho
On April 13, 2013
Reviso




Trenton, Canada
#8New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:59:24
@Kristy69 Said

It's not you.
Girls use wicked wiles to lure you in and then the true colors show. She's a psycho because she's a psycho



Eh, Vixy are you coming on to me are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness?
11 minutes ago
Reviso




Trenton, Canada
#9New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:59:53
@Reviso Said

Eh, Vixy , are you coming on to me, or are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness?
11 minutes ago
Kristy69
Carly's Mommy





Underneath the Cyanide Sun....
#10New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 13:02:16
@Reviso Said

Eh, Vixy are you coming on to me are we at a social rights approved of discontinuity of Consciousness?



I didn't understand that at all and why you're implying that I'm Lethal_vixen I'm really not sure.
Guess you haven't been around too long..
On April 13, 2013
Judas




Edmonton, Canada
#11New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 13:37:17
@Eaglebauer Said

I will say that I think once two people have been romantically involved, if they split ways it's virutally impossible for them to just be friends afterward. A relationship with romance changes things indelibly.

As far as rekindling that same sort of relationship...it all depends. Given the fact that it's only been six weeks and you split up because of her mood swings, do you think it's something you really WANT to return to, or is it just something you're willing to take in lieu of nothing? It seems by what you're saying that the latter is the case.

I agree with EB that we're not meant to be alone. Humans aren't wired that way so it's very easy to jump on anything that presents itself when we're lonely...and I know this isn't a huge comfort...but I have also been that lonely before.

It's an easy trap to fall into if you aren't careful.


It's been six weeks since I left. We were together over a year. That's my bad, sorry.
On May 19, 2012
Kristy69
Carly's Mommy





Underneath the Cyanide Sun....
#12New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 13:43:18
I don't like thinking people will never change. When I broke up with my SO a couple years ago, I never said "never again."
He changed a lot and so did I.

We ended up splitting up again for a few weeks and now we're really working on it (this time we have a new motive, but still). I used to think "Oh, he needs to do this, this and this..."
But I realize now there's a lot that I need to work on as well to make this work. It's definitely a two way street.
On April 13, 2013
Judas




Edmonton, Canada
#13New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 13:46:31
@treebee Said

is there any reason why you are not dating other girls?



It's hard, when you're on the pipeline. There's not much for girls, and when there is, they're usually there with their partner.
And I have no luck otherwise, it seems.
On May 19, 2012
Deal_With_It




Stevens Pass, Washington
#14New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 14:06:12
@Kristy69 Said

I don't like thinking people will never change. When I broke up with my SO a couple years ago, I never said "never again."
He changed a lot and so did I.

We ended up splitting up again for a few weeks and now we're really working on it (this time we have a new motive, but still). I used to think "Oh, he needs to do this, this and this..."
But I realize now there's a lot that I need to work on as well to make this work. It's definitely a two way street.

You seem wise beyond your age. From my own experience relationships need to be worked on forever. It is a two way street and rarely 50/50.
On about 11 hours ago
sTreetAngeL
root tedt ree





in a paradox,
#15New Post! Apr 28, 2012 @ 15:59:49
It can work. But in order for it to work, work has to be put into it; and that from 'both' parties.

Your ex sounds like she needs psychiatric care; and until she faces that, and does the work necessary, I forsee nothing but misery in such a relationship.
On May 18, 2013
Reply to Topic<< Previous Topic | Next Topic >>
Pages: 1 2 3 4 · >>

1 browsing (0 members - 1 guest)

Quick Reply








Be Respectful of Others

      
Subscribe to topic prefs

Similar Topics
    Forum Topic Last Post Replies Views
New posts   Jokes & Humor
Fri May 18, 2012 @ 10:06
3 186
New posts   Health & Fitness
Wed Nov 04, 2009 @ 02:03
20 597
New posts   Jokes & Humor
Thu Jun 25, 2009 @ 15:53
1 130
New posts   Jobs & Careers
Fri May 23, 2008 @ 12:59
3 425
New posts   Random
Sat May 17, 2008 @ 19:24
11 397