I need advice especially b/c I don’t even know if I’m gay.
Well I’m guessing so b/c I have a crush on a guy. We really just met but we are really good friends and I value our friendship, I don’t want to scare him off telling him I’m gay and I like you. *sigh I don’t know what to do next…

Well when you're a teenager you explore your sexuality as most are sexually confused...

I would hold off on the labeling yourself just yet, you are still young, and as was said earlier, your hormones are going crazy, and with society's increasing acceptance of sexual experimentation and exploration it's becoming harder to know the difference between wanting that and actually prefering it as a lifestyle. I would ask myself is it this guy in particular, or do you feel this way towards other guys? And have you had sexual experience with a girl? And also consider there is no rush, and no reason to limit yourself to being "gay" or "straight". Do what makes you happy.

If I was you I wouldn't go putting to much pressure on yourself with regard to working out what sexuality you are. If you just let your sexuality blossom and flourish naturally you willl probably be alot less confused in the long run. I know that may not seem a great deal of help now but in a few years, hopefully things should be a little clearer for you. You are young and that means you have plenty of time for a bit of exploration and experimentation to find out what really floats your boat.

As for you having a crush on this guy, are there any other guys out there you like, or are the rest girls, or even a mixture of both. It is very easy to develop crushes on people (especially same sex ones) just because they have qualities that you particually admire in a person, or that they seem like somebody you would want to be someday.

The spectrum of human sexuality is so varied that just having fun being who you are, when you are ready to label yourself one thing or another you will know the answer in yourself. Just make sure you always stay true to yourself and never pretend to be anything other than you are because of peer pressure or anything.

Hope that it works out ok for you.

Thanks for the advice. Its not really that I like guys its more of likeing the relationship between guys. Im friends with a gay couple and they seem so happy together. Then I have some straight friends who have or hade g/fs and it seems like they always have bad news. It feels like theres so much drama. Gota run this short parents are walking up... later.

dnt worry its part of growing up i might not even be gay

Maybe you just feel more attractied to having relationships with another guy just because they seem happier then.

If you had mainly seen happy straight couples and homosexual people had bad news, then do you think that you would want a straight relationship more?

I just think if you give yourself a bit of time without putting yourself under pressure to decide then you will find the right person, whoever they are.

Sorry I didn’t get to finish what I was trying to say before. Well I’m a wrestler and I fell strange looking forward to this season more then any other, also my friend keeps joking about being gay... I don’t know if he’s only being stupid or trying to tell me something and not scare me off… (*sigh I hate puberty)

It's so funny because I am going through the same situation. I don't think I am gay because i am attracted to boys and i never was intamite with another female, but i am attracted to one of my best friends. i want to treat her like she needs to be treated, but im not sure if she's feeling the same way. i think she may be curious...i dont want to ruin our friendship by asking her if she is gay or by telling her that i have a crush on her. i am feeling this girl so bad...please someone tell me what to do.

I had many crushes on alot of my best friends.. just like the one in my profile pic.. I did not think I was gay at the age of 18..(but i was a cheerleader..) I never pursued Jason..but we were close..and we hugged alot. but I never did anything to let him know i was interested. well jason is gay now..too.. so maybe if he is joking about it maybe he is trying to tell you.. but from my experience when a gay guy asked me if i were gay i would throw a fit and tell him NO...even though deep down I wanted to be with him..so maybe your guy will do the same thing... let him pursue you I think.. but keep yourself close.. so he might do something..but if you ever do anything together then there will be that whole ignoring you thing.... i hated that one.. just be careful and dont let anything get you devastated....becasue things always change... life is so ever changing... HEY ADD ME AS YOUR FRIEND AND KEEP ME POSTED

Just ask them... an say Are You gay?

i can easily know if a person is gay/bi on how he/she carry hisself/herself the way he speak, type of clothes etc.

Not necessarily.

I agree annski, i look gay definately but my girlfriend doesn't at all.

i see you're still young... most likely you are undergoing the identity crisis stage. it's the time when you're not really sure of what your sexuality is... if i may ask you would you accept the idea of being a gay? with your question if whether you're a gay or a bi... well lemme ask you... are you also attracted to the opposite sex? attacted in a way that you see them as a potential partner... say girlfriends... cuz personally i can appreciate other girls too. i find them pretty or sexy but not to the extent that i consider having a more-than-friends- relaionship kind of thing... i have lots of gay and bi friends.. cuz in here people are mor open-minded with those things... so somehow it's more of like an intuition that i get to sense if a person is gay or has homosexual tendencies... familiar of those they call closet gays? those gays that hide behind those masculine stuff? funny cuz i spot most of the gays, well closet gays on fitness gyms and even in basketball teams...
well back on your dilemna... try considering things... as i've said in recent posts... try finding out if your friend is open minded when it comes to the gay sexuality... cuz your friendshiip is at stake in here... but if he's really your friend, he'll accept all of you... hope i helped...