Changing for the worst

Follow up on what is going on with my "friend" and that horrid girl of his.

Today he told me she had lost him completely with the way she has been acting, but not an hour later he tells me he is going to give her another chance.

When I ask what that meant he said, she will get another chance and if she proves me wrong by freaking out again over my friend then we are for sure done.

I asked him are you agreeing to her terms? he says yes. Her terms were she would get 80% of his time and his Friends get 20% now there are 5 of us all in a tight group. with him going to work and his college course he only spends 1-2 hours online. which means we would get about 8 minutes a piece.

I can't help but feel a little disappointed in him, maybe because I thought he was the kind of guy who told the truth and stuck to it. he told me last night he was NOT going to do that to us and he was NOT going to change who he was,

I'm a little confused on what I should do. should I just step back and let it be. or should I fight to have this horrid woman out of his life? I only think it will get worse with time

I believe and feel that in all good time she will have him completely taken from us.


Any Advice?

Give up on him, he's a lost cause.

If I remember correctly, aren't you married yourself? You of all people should realize that a love interest comes first before all others. It's just natural.

Eowyn you and your friend have a strong connection but it's dragging hearts through the mud.

The chic in your friend's relationship needs to keep searching until she can breath easy (like that movie). She's not wrong in desiring what is good for her. She's wrong in trying to force your friend to be that - Especially when there are many lonely men out there who will satisfy what she is looking for.

You, personally, if your husband is as God-Like as me and completely understands and respects that connection between you and your best friend, you better be giving your hubby some good damn sex as reward!

Okay I sure will!!!!!

So leave my friend and let this girl just take him away?

Yes, or else he'll never have a love life.

Well no; but you and everyone else will have to take a back seat while he gets to know her better. If this is a new relationship?
I think that's fair.

cool beans

Two VERY lucky men to be a part of your life, Eowyn.

Your buddy is a douche, and apparently he is now pussy whipped. Sorry. He's either got to grow a spine and tell this woman that he's not going to be dominated.. or maybe that's what he likes. Whatever the case, you're friend... is lost. Too bad he's far away. I'd say slap some sense into him if he lived near you and you saw him often.

And yeah, if you're married, and your husband is being totally cool about this, you really should show him how much you appreciate his trust in you and what not. A few extra "I love you"s and maybe a back rub or something would be nice. I know I love getting that from my wife

My friend is no longer a part of my life...its pointless and useless
But when my husband gets home I will give him some lovin hahahaha

A very good Idea, I will try that when he gets home. Thanks for the advice :D

No, you do what your heart says, let your friend do what his heart says.

The girl in the situation is not wrong for wanting what she wants for her but she is wrong to expect that to be right by EVERY ONE.

If you go with your heart.
Your friend goes with his heart.

and

It dislodges this girl - She will set forth to find what is right by her and she will find it.

What she wants is indifferent but does not make her bad. Bad only happens when we attempt to assimilate, force or coerce others to our will when our desires are not theirs.

There are others out there with the same desires as hers.

Also, most hubbys would be envious of this strong friendship but there appears to be no complaints from your husband.

Which is to say that he loves you enough to respect you the freedom to find from others that which he is not ready to provide and graces himself with the beautiful reassurance that he can not be everything himself.

Just remember, your hubby always takes first priority.
Especially if he loves you this much to respect such a close connection with another potential prospect.

She's a new chic in a single man's relationship.....
...Dates with this dude involve in hanging out with his female friend through Skype.

..I got dumped because I simply chose to spend time taking apart and learning about computers instead of spending exclusive focus on new girls........

I love Eowyn to peaces and I know how special her friend is and definitely how special her husband is so I'm not making fun of Eowyn but I can totally see what is going through this dude's new girlfriend's head.