So my guy has this weird, rotating schedule. He will be on days for four months, and then will rotate to nights for four.

The problem is that he sucks at night shift. He just can't rotate his sleeping schedule on his days off; he'll still end up sleeping half the day, and then he'll toss and turn all night and because he slept so crappy, he'll sleep half the next day too. He can't flip it around.

When the kid was a baby, he arranged with somebody that wanted to remain on nights to trade places so that he could always stay on days, but then all his friends went to work on nights and he was stuck with a crew that he didn't like very much for four months.

But this is becoming a real problem. I don't want him to have to leave his work buddies, but I need him to be able to function during the day. I'm not always home, and things still need to get done that he can't just lay around practically comatose. Mainly, Justin needs to be given some outlet for his mad energy; he's a little kid and can't be kept cooped up all day. He needs to be fed, and things need to be cleaned up after the feeding.

When he's on day shift, he's great. He's doing all these projects; Justin's helping. They go out into the sunlight. The house stays nice'ish. He sleeps at night and is quite productive and alert during the day.

But he doesn't like the other shift crew.

I don't know what to do here. Contrary to whatever people think, I don't want to be that controlling girlfriend that forces him to leave behind his work buddies and work the shift that she wants. He doesn't seem to take it that way when I bring it up and ask what he wants to do, but I still feel like it.

Something needs to change here. There's only another week of night shift this time, but we're going to run into the same problems next time around, and we need to figure something out. But I hate saying, "If you can't rotate your sleeping every week, then you have to switch."

I don't know what to do with this. He doesn't either. Why does he have to have such a stupidly scheduled job?